Someone made a post in a poly Facebook group that invited everyone to complete that sentence. So I did. Then I made a hashtag for it on Twitter. Then I realized that tweets don't last forever, so I'm making this post to archive them:
...you come home and your girlfriend's husband's girlfriend is in the front yard tending to the vegetable patch.
...you lay down at night and you have both your husband and wife laying beside you and your perfectly content to share your queen size bed with 2 other adults
...it takes both your husband and your partner about 36 hours long to 'forgive' you for bringing home a new dog and each hopes you intend for it to primarily live with the other. *inno*
...your girlfriend's partner's wife's boyfriend's kids are playing with your girlfriend's kid in the living room.
...you stay home happily napping because you know your boyfriend and your girlfriend and your other boyfriend are all contentedly playing D&D together for the evening.
...you don't own a TV.
...you go to make plans with your g/f but shes busy going out drinking with your other g/f... >.>'
...your husband looks at your potential new lover and says, "Shes spoiled." ( live with two of my lovers) :D
...you describe your metamour to someone as "my boyfriend's life partner".
...you walk down the street holding hands with two loves at once. and then you skip. cause how can you not?
...your hot threesome with two of your boyfriends is interrupted by one of their wives saying "are you guys done yet? Cuz I'm hungry!" and this causes laughter, not strife. (Joreth)
...someone asks you how your boyfriend is doing, and you answer "which one?" (Joreth)
...a msg from your bf's gf filled with evil plots to torture him is met with enthusiasm from all involved, not drama (Joreth)
...you have to clarify to the interviewer for the glossy magazine that honest to god, you get along just fine with your gal's husband, and that he perceives "tension" in your voice because that's what he's expecting to find.
...you have to repeat yourself to the interviewer "no, there really isn't one I love better than the others and no amount of rephrasing the question will change the answer" (Joreth)
...trying to explain who is involved with whom and how, confuses everyone, including yourself until you pull out the chart. (Joreth)
...said chart is color coded, requires a legend, and is on your iphone because this happens to you so often, you need to keep it with you at all times. (Joreth)
...you're hanging out with your husband, your girlfriend and your girlfriend's husband... and you realize for the first time in your life you're really, truly sexually content.
...most of your friends knit.
...your partners have a pseudo show down on who is going to pick up the kid because you are too sick to manage it as usual. "I will pick him up." "no, I will." "no, I will."
...your husband tells you your boyfriend is adorable.
...saying "Ma…Ste…Sar…Ke… shit!" isn't a mom mixing up kids' names, but you mixing up partners! (Joreth)
...you throw out terms like "metamour" & "compersion" & no one listening stops you for definitions (Joreth)
...the kinky butch lesbian at work says "girl, I thought *I* was weird!" (Joreth)
...a sign of commitment is your bf's wife asking your opinion on mattresses for the MegaBed she's building (Joreth)
..."honey, what's for dinner?" turns into a 3 day email conversation & a panicky group IM chat (Joreth)
...you log in to Facebook to find your husband has changed his display picture to one of him and your boyfriend.
...your girlfriend periodically rotates her Facebook profile picture to give all of her men their fair share of time at her side.
...you and your boyfriend can't wait to compare notes on your dates the night before.
...(Oh, and hubby has already been filled in. :-)
...your husband hums the Hockey Night in Canada theme as you leave the room to have "quiet time" with your boyfriend. There is no hockey game on.
...your girlfriend and boyfriend take you home after being in an exhausting show, feed you wine and poutine and let you whine about being sooooo sick while your husband takes care of the boy.
...you're out for coffee with your girlfriend and she notices the hickey on your neck from your husband and lends you her scarf so you don't get mocked at work ♥
...you're borrowing your Halloween costume from your husband's gf.
...you see a Poly couple on Anderson Cooper's Show and get totally excited and can't think of who you're going to call first, the boyfriend or the girlfriend.
...you answer "how come you never married?" with "because 2 of my boyfriends are already legally married, and the other boyfriend's finances are a mess so I don't want to get dragged into that. But I might marry one of my boyfriend's other girlfriends for the medial benefits she gets at work if we move to a state with domestic partnership laws." (Joreth)
-You know you're an OUT poly when you realize you just said this to your new boss.
...you ditch your socially full Friday night to be with your parents at the emergency vet watching your family dog pass away after a horrible accident and come home to your two men trading off showing you love, support and caring by listening, giving you food and a large martini. I am so blessed and grateful for my family and what we have all created (including my parents!)
...someone asks if you're single, & you respond: "Yes. Wait. ...Well, Mostly? ...Do you mean sexually or emotionally?" (@themaili)
...dating one person makes you think, "...wow. my social calendar feels so open. I should call up my old friends..." (@themaili)
...your boss giving you a plus-one to the company holiday party puts you in a moral & ethical dilemma. (@themaili)
...you hand your phone to one partner to take a sexy pic to send to another partner (@rsetzer314)
...you tag a partner in an ambiguous post on FB ("winning") and the partner you live with hits "like" (@rsetzer314)
...you add 'metamour' and 'frubbly' to the dictionary on your phone. (@notpilgrim)
...you realize you're hitting on the waitress, cause your date starts flirtatiously playing wingman for you. (@themaili
...you hear that some guy is hitting on your wife and the first thing out of you mouth is "you go girl" (@Artofpaint)
...you want a caldav server to keep track of your dates. (@Artofpaint)
...you get grumpy because a romantic comedy doesn't end in a joyful orgy (@nanayasleeps)
...you have to ask "Whose hand is that?" (@relsqui)
...every romantic comedy you see you spend shouting JUST TALK TO EACH OTHER FOR CHRISSAKE. (@themaili
...you send an iPhone postcard of the [romantic] mountain getaway to your metamour. (@cunningminx)
...you reflexively go to change the station everytime you hear a song lyric like "you're the only one" or "only you" (@themaili
...the pic of your current partners is the wallpaper on your work computer #outandproud (@youngmetropoly)
...you know that love has no limits but time does (@HeavenlyWillow)
...your child, watching some sitcom, says "Why don't they just talk to each other??"
...you pull up your file of your mate's sexy photos to find some for him to post to his online dating profile. And you're grinning the whole time!
...your girlfriend casually mentions going on a date w/you to your wife's dad, and it's a Good Thing.
...you wish your girlfriend happy anniversary but it's not YOUR anniversary.
...Winterval gets expensive just buying for your partners (@xmakina)
...you tell her you had sex with her boyfriend in the shower and her first question is about the physical logistics. -F (@labcoatlingerie)
...you are just as excited about your love falling for another woman as he is. (@Shykokami)
...you run out of colors on your Google calendar. (@kelleytastic)
...you wonder why the characters in soap operas bother to marry each other one at a time. (@TriniPagan)
... you miss your girlfriend, and your wife comforts you. #NoNotLikeThatIMeanAHug #NotAllAboutTheSex
...your network can spread a cold across national boundaries. *achoo* (@FranklinVeaux)
...you stress about introducing your new potential to your ex & their partners (@themaili
...you can't wait to introduce your new potential to your exes & their partners! (@Kalyana)
...your metamour asks you what color scarf you want knitted. (@cunningminx)
...your metamour mournfully apologizes for disrupting sex between you & the shared GF (@MarkSobba)
...after you've been dumped your primary tries to comfort you by saying "we broke up once too" (@rsetzer314
..."I'm currently on the lookout for a curvy girl." "You'd probably like my girlfriend." XD (@relsqui)
...you're having a moment of weakness to reach for the phone to call your recent ex & your husband says "don't do it!" (@PolyDen)
...your wife keeps washing underwear and giving them to you, but they don't belong to you, they belong to your husband's other girlfriend. (@Heidi Britt)
...the Canadian court decision makes you want to stage a kiss-in at the courthouse. bit.ly/tUq9q7
...every time you see "it's complicated" FB #relationship status for someone you don't know, you think "closeted #poly." (@themaili
...you have to take both your paramours on a date in the front row at campus movie night so the whispering crowd will finally get it that it's not a secret!
...your boyfriend's girlfriend comes up with a brilliant idea, and you glow with pride to be part of such an awesome network of people. (Yes, me, just now, at this. :) ) (@Emanix)
...you make sure the UU minister who is to marry you deletes the words "foresaking all others" from the vows - and she takes it all in stride because she knows full well why you asked her to do it without your having to explain. (Anita Wagner)
...you have a romantic candlelit dinner for three (@Emanix)
...you ask a metamour about who's partnering who to your other partner's wedding, & both end up with a 'plus one-half'. (@Emanix)
...you hear the word #unicorn and you don't immediately think of a mythical horse with a horn. (@youngmetropoly)
...you giggle like a school girl gushing to your HUSBAND about seeing your BOYFRIEND. (@funkristy)
...you ask your partner for opinions on Valentine's gifts for your boyfriend (@OxfordPoly)
...you can't decide if 'friend/partner of a friend' or 'my partner's partner's partner' is a nearer connection (@Emanix)
...half of any relationship is spent learning new terminology (@NiaCJohn)
...you out your hubby’s crush TO HIS CRUSH, & your 1st thought is: I REALLY hope he’s home getting great sex. (@themaili
...your girlfriends send each other photos of themselves with the bears you got them last weekend (@xmakina)
...your weekend is as likely to involve watching cartoons in bed w/a sweetie as it is a hot threesome. #NotAllAboutTheSex
...spending the weekend "at home" could mean any of 4 different houses in 2 different cities.
...one person dropping out of a weekend causes a complete reshuffle of sleeping arrangements for everyone. (@Emanix)
...you have to explain that, no, he can't come to the orgy cuz he's not part of the network & hasn't been tested (Joreth)
...you have to further explain that there is a surprising amount of logistical planning when it comes to orgies (Joreth
...your conservative Christian coworker tries to set you up with his younger brother because his brother refuses to "settle down" and your coworker thinks you've figured out how to do it responsibly & safely & without "the crazy chicks". (Joreth)
...your conservative Christian coworker asks you for sexual safety advice when he and his wife start talking about having a threesome. (Joreth)
...your mono "friends" confide in you about their cheating cuz they think you'll "get it". (Joreth)
...your cheating mono "friends" are then surprised to get a lecture from you about safety, compassion, & insensitivity. (Joreth)
...you have certain phrases on auto-response & don't even have to think about them, they just come out: yes he knows & he's OK with it; no I'm really not jealous of his wife; of course they both know, if they didn't, it would be cheating; actually, they were both friends with each other before I started dating either of them; I did find The One - in fact, I found several Ones; I am
settled down, they are my family; my relationships ARE real relationships; no, I'm not a Mormon.
...at a wedding, there's a special photo for 'partners of the bride & groom'. <3 (@Emanix)
...people look at your "family" and say "nice entourage!" (@deadhead_moni)
...your boyfriend takes you to his office Christmas party. On the way, you stop at your other boyfriend's house to get the coat he borrowed from your boyfriend.. Boyfriend needs pants for the party, so gets a loan of fancy pants from your other boyfriend. Boyfriend needs office party gift wrapped, so your girlfriend offers to wrap it all pretty for him. You both get kissed and hugged goodbye as you leave for the party! (PS.. for those who are still confused, there were four poly people involved in this story.)
...you're out Christmas shopping and hold up the cashier because you're distracted simultaneously texting one boy about last night, a second boy about tonight, and a third about tomorrow night!
...you're making presents for 8 parents (two sets for one of us due to a remarriage).
...you are out browsing with your husband and son and your husband finds the perfect gift for your boyfriend on sale.
...you spend more time talking about sex than having it.
...you're talking about a schedule for showering in the morning with your wife and GF and just decide to have one together.
...Facebook's new Timeline shows a random image of six of your friends, and all six are crushes.
...nobody seems to have done anything wrong, but suddenly everything is all fucked up.
...your husband doesn't remember the date of his anniversary with his girlfriend, so you have to find it for him using the records in his Google Calendar.
... on your partner's Facebook profile it shows you a thumbnail box of eight mutual friends, and you've been intimate with all eight of them.
...you invite all your friends over and realise you've dated all of them, or their partners, at some point in time.
...you're in bed with your girlfriend checking out profiles on OKCupid and comparing notes.
...and then she gets a text from her boyfriend and has to jump out of bed to go check her Google calendar.
...you agree to go to a movie with your husband even though it is going to scare you silly and you hate being scared all because you realize he deserves it because he willingly stays home with the kids so you can have overnights with one of your loves.
...you are in bed with your boyfriend while he is texting his wife... and you love it . or when your hubby offers to stay out so you and your bf can have a sleep over at house
...you're making a fancy dinner for your two sweeties.
...your husband calls your boyfriend cupcake and boyfriend calls husband muffin! Lmao....totally platonically.
...your husband helps you pick out an outfit for your date with your boyfriend.
...your bf tends the kids so hubby and you can go to the hot springs for playtime with another couple. Teehee
...a calendar is more valuable to you than money o.o
...boyfriend has to buy two packages of condoms because he forgot which size husband needs....lolol..
...your boyfriend shows up with flowers for you, and beer for your husband and a movie to all snuggle up to
...talking on the phone to a far-away partner about their budding relationship (and accompanying sexy misadventures) with another person makes you feel fuzzy and warm inside.
...you are home alone, because your partner is on a date, your girlfriend is in another city, and your lover is at work.
...your partner asks you "why are you so dressed up this morning, is there a cute girl at work?"
...your sleeping-arrangement negotiations have to include whose bed the cat will sleep in.
...you're at a break-up dinner party hosted by your partner A and his ex B, your ex X messages you seeing if you want to hang out tonight, and when your girlfriend G notices X checked in on foursquare at his apartment (after a spell of international check-ins) you suggest to her (G) that you and G surprise crash X's place since you haven't seen him since many poly meets ago and both you and G both think he's cute.
...you often confuse people in your life when you mention other people in your life and don't have your current (and past) polycule diagram on hand.
...you just knew passing up that potential GF was going to kick your ass eventually. And holy fuck did it ever!
...you stay up late poly processing about twice as often as you stay up late having sex.
...you think about whether you're doing it wrong at *least* once a week, and share that with other poly people (because the non-poly friends stopped getting it).
...you can't see your lover often because she lives in another city, but you find time to flirt publicly on a social media group for poly people.
...you're reading this and getting all frubbly, or you're thinking 'yep, me too'.
...your boyfriend comes over to be cheerleader for job interviews because hubby is *not* so good at that....
...you wonder where all the time went.
...you are chatting with an online friend you haven't met in person- but are attracted to- and mutually agree to do a smooch test for compatibility when you do end up meeting in person.
...you're saddened by the difficulty one of your metamours (who identifies as mono) is having with the fact that your shared partner is poly. Due to the fact that she is not poly, she wants nothing to do with meeting you but you really wish she would so you could try to help her understand. You just wish you could go for a beer with her and give her a hug
...you're scheduled to sing at your boyfriend's upcoming wedding reception.
...you can flirt with multiple people simultaneously, within the same thread on a FB discussion.
...you deliver your boyfriend to your girlfriend so he can take her shopping for sex toys, and, after kissing them both in the lobby of a 5-star hotel (where you'd been hiding from the rain), you text your girlfriend to remind your boyfriend to pick up lube.
...the new guy you're dating turns out to have been a jerk, and you talk to your boyfriend about it and he gives you snuggles to help you feel better.
...you chat on Skype with your best friend, talking about the hot sex she just had with your boyfriend
...your boyfriend comes over to make sure you are OK when hubby and you are having difficulty and does his very best to support the both of you without being "in the middle"
...you like one partner's Facebook comment but not the other's, and then you start to wonder if the other partner will be offended that you didn't like their comment, and then you wonder if you should just like all their comments just to be fair to both of them.
...metamour bonding includes all three people in the V sharing a bed, and you're so impressed with the intimacy that was created from caring about the same person.
...your metamours console you about a rough breakup.
... you break up with your partner and their other partner reaches out to help you get through it. (Joreth)
... you break up with your partner and your other partners and metamours are shocked and upset that your now-former partner's other partners *didn't* reach out to help you get through it, because your current partners & metamours assume that family is family and a breakup doesn't necessarily change that, so the metamours through the former partner should have. (Joreth)
...there is nowhere on the internet to discuss your poly joys or sorrows that doesn't include at least part of your romantic network.
...your new love interest comes over to meet your primary, your bf shows up too in a protective gesture lol.
...after (a most unusual) 3 weeks in which nearly every night has been spent with a partner, you are foolishly, blissfully happy to find yourself alone in your own bed.
...your girlfriend says how happy she is to be alone in her bed after several weeks, and you and her other girlfriend both have the same thought- what about the cat?
...you spontaneously ride out to meet your metamour for a quick lunch on the beach, then make sure to check both of you in together on Facebook because you know it will make your sweetie happy.
...you have laundry. ALL THE LAUNDRY.
...you're home all alone because your partner is on a date, and your out of town lover, who is also on a date, texts you at the start of hers to tell you how it's going, and this makes you feel cared about.
...you send four texts in a row to different people, all containing the mathematical expression, less than three.
...you read stuff like this pretty much every day on your newsfeed, because the vast majority of your FB friends are either your lovers, your former lovers, your metamours, or part of your poly community.
...you try to create a Facebook list called "Polyfamily," and you struggle to remember everyone who's supposed to be on it, and even when you're finished, you're pretty sure you've forgotten someone.
...you negotiate relationships as early as the day after a first date because you know you have a full plate of things to put energy into. You feel a little sad but empowered to be saying no.
...you text "I love you & miss you" to a partner that reminds you to text another. I love being loved!
...you're giddy with excitement to have made a coffee date with your very first poly metamour!
...you get stuck home with the kids when hubby is gone for the weekend and original plans with so get all screwed up because he suddenly gets invited out, and you can't go
...you haven't dated in a decade b/c school, work and home made your schedule too full, so now that you are dating, you need your husbands help to make sure you aren't making a fool of yourself. And when he sees you talking to said interest online, he finds something else to do instead of asking for the computer b/c you are obviously doing something more important that him checking FB.
...your husband gives you his fortune and it reads "Your meaning of love is special. Why not share it."
...you go on a date, come home to your boyfriend, and send a message to your lover excited about it.
...you encourage your partner to go on dates because reconnecting after is so much fun and you have so much to say to each other.
...Friday night plans involve a game of musical beds amongst some of your closest friends, with your roommate having an overnight at yours/her boyfriend's place so your girlfriend can have an overnight with you while her hubby has an overnight with his girlfriend. #keepingitsimple
...you spend your Friday night talking poly with you metamour and consider it a well spent evening.
...you have plans for dinner next week and as a trained pastry chef you let go of the reigns to let said metamour bring dessert.
...you can't keep track of who all the toothbrushes belong too. (compounded when you have poly roommates)
...you ask how she feels about sneaking off for a quickie at an upcoming engagement. Her reply: with who?
...you sneak in a quickie with hubby before going out with your other sweetie
... you ask your husband, "may I have some of your potato chips." He responds, "as long as you don't take more than half." And you answer, "That is a very clear boundary that I can respect."
...your husband writes a post on a poly forum on April fools morning stating that you are pregnant by your boyfriend and it could be true if he weren't fixed.
...you exchange contact info and ask if they want to link Google calendars to "make it simpler".
...you need to get someone quickly out of a bad situation, and 12 people and 4 trucks show up with 6 hours notice to get it done in under two hours. Yay community!
...you set up a date with an online acquaintance at the local fet night, as a double date with your husband and his girlfriend...and your date is totally okay with the arrangement.
...this thread gives you a bigger and bigger smile that is equal parts recognition, compersion and "oh, I want THAT"!
...you think about inviting a new lover to something you regularly attend with your partner, and wonder what your partner would think about that... then remember that your partners other lover comes too
...you spend an awesome night out at the club with your husband and metamour then come home to hang out. She stays the night and is there to help you care for your sick husband the next day.
...your boyfriend and your roommate (who happens to also be dating your boyfriend) make extra food for you cos you haven't eaten all day and have tons of work to do, and you smile as you hear them giggling and making out as you get back to work at the computer for the evening
...you totally get the title of this book and want to read it: http://www.amazon.com/Polyamori-gypsysattva-ebook/dp/B006UTL748/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1327351717&sr=8-1 (@diparra27)
...it fucking sucks to be in the middle of dating 2 people who are each dating one half of a shitty breakup. (@themaili
...you find yourself joking, "no YOUR partner did something dumb" ...about the person you're (both) dating. (@themaili
...watching your partner dance w/draw on another woman makes you grin like an idiot (@rsetzer314)
...you spend your evening wrapping ALL your metamour's bday presents because your partner sucks at it (@OxfordPoly)
...pillow talk includes discussing other partners or potential partners (@rsetzer314)
...you go to a bisexual meetup with your metamour and have to keep saying 'our partner' instead of 'my partner' (@OxfordPoly)
...your girlfriends go to IKEA together… to purchase a bigger bed. (@sfslim)
...you are negotiating boundaries in your relationships via grouptext. (@themaili
..."I'm really glad you can be there for her" turns into a makeout session. (@themaili
...your boyfriend helps you revise your okcupid profile. ("How do I find more people I like as much as I like you?") (@relsqui)
...you're planning a first date on IM, while you watch boyfriend play video games, and his girlfriend is making dinner. (@relsqui)
...you fantasise about living in a farm house to accommodate you and your lovers, even though you hate rural living. (@redfernjohn)
...the family schedules a time on the calendar to schedule time on the calendar. True story.
...someone cute mentions an upcoming date, & your default response is to flirt by offering cute date ideas. (@themaili
...you & your metamours spend quality time razzing your shared partner. (@themaili
...you are watching the LGBT pride parade with your metamour, and having a blast! (@polyamorypundit)
...you ask your wife what your girlfriend's favorite condom flavor is. :-)
...your poly perspective takes the funny out of a comedian's routine presuming universal monogamy. (@polymisanthrope)
...your boyfriend's wife knits you a scarf for Valentine's Day. And it matches your outfit perfectly! (@cunningminx)
...your husband offers to make a romantic candlelight dinner for you and your girlfriend on #valentinesday. (@rosefox)
...you're forced to answer your friend's "How's your love life?" at a party w/ "...We should catch up over dinner." (@themaili
...you have a dream that the girl you're crushing on, and her boyfriend, turn out to be poly already. (@FishAye)
...sharing Google calendars has become the official First Step in turning "dating" into big-r Relationship. (Joreth)
...your boyfriend's other girlfriend comes to visit you, even though your mutual boyfriend doesn't even live in your state, and you take her out swing dancing because that's another thing you have in common with her that even your boyfriend doesn't share. (Joreth)
...meeting your high school sweetheart's new girlfriend makes you feel compersion even though they're mono & you haven't dated him in nearly 20 years. (Joreth)
...you apply same justification for poly (metamours are opportunities to make new friends) to defend why it's OK to stay friends with exes (partner's exes are opportunities to make new friends / exes' new partners are opportunities to make new friends) even in mono culture. (Joreth)
...you text your boyfriend with a deliberately-misleading-but-technically-
true "I met a dancer & took him home last night!" message and when you explain the details and it's not what it sounds like, your boyfriend is actually disappointed for you that it's not what it sounded like instead of jealously relieved that it was a joke, because he knows how much you'd like to date another dancer.
...the same thing happens when you do again to your other boyfriend. (Joreth)
...you realize that the "celebrity exception" lists that you thought were a safe way to fantasize with your partner about other people because it could never really happen aren't so safe because it could actually happen.
...you realize that said "celebrity exception" list is actually more exciting knowing that it really could happen and you're totally OK with that.
...you exchange dirty emails with a celebrity you idolize and arrange a second tryst, preferably in his town next time, and when you tell your boyfriend about it, he gives you a high-five and a "RIGHT ON!" (Joreth)
...My husband lost his phone. The first thing I did was message his girlfriends to let them know.
...you start making valentine's plans before xmas, which include a romantic dinner for eleven. (@Emanix)
...you realise you need a bigger table for your romantic valentines dinner for nine. (@Emanix)
...someone's talking about unicorns and you assume they are talking about single bisexual females
...you just did laundry for three days and you realize none of it was yours.
...you've ever used the word metamour in casual conversation
...you use the phrase "my boyfriend's girlfriend" in a non-joking context.
...you mention your "girlfriend's girlfriend" in the office and everyone stops what they're doing to stare agape at you
...you and your husband are talking about his girlfriend in public and people think you're joking.
...u show up at work with love marks and when asked if your wife was hungry and you say yes they sure were.
...someone says they spoke to your girlfriend or wife and you answer with "You are going to have to be more specific."
...you redesigned your kitchen to make space for an industrial three-bay sink and a six-burner stove, and your cookware looks like it could easy roast a whole pig!
...you wake up in bed with your boyfriend and his wife.
...you're watching a show or movie and the main characters are in a love triangle with drama, the first thing to come to mind would be "they wouldn't have problems if they were poly,"
...you have an opinion on "couple's privilege,"
...you find yourself giving your gf/bf/wife etc. dating advice and/or counseling on their other relationship(s)
...you've helped your husband pick out a gift for his wife
...you have a Google calendar called "dates" that is shared with more than 2 people
...you have ever found another woman's underwear in your bedroom floor and laughed trying to identify who's they were
...you decided to go to "no gift Christmas" because re-financing the house every year wasn't an option
...you ever smiled while seeing your partner kiss someone else
...you've spent the last few evenings helping your partner process her transition with your former metamour - with and without your nesting partner there helping - you might be poly.
...your boyfriend's wife calls your partners to remind you to get ready for the dinner cruise with him. (@AnneRialen)
...between partners and metamours planning valentines week requires the coordination of seven people's schedules (@RandyFrehse)
...your bfs wife is baking cookies for her bf and sends some to you just because (@tixarah)
...you call out "Honey!” and more than one person answers back. (@AnneRialen)
...If the town gas station attendant pulls you to the side to inform you that your husband was spotted "seeing someone else" and you reply with "yea I needed a break - I've been with them every night this week"
...you end up with a husband-in-law.
...you somehow manage to get engaged to your husband's girlfriend *at your wedding
...the woman you proposed marriage to marries another, and then promptly re-proposes back to you at the wedding. (Joreth)
...your boyfriend becomes your outlaw and his girlfriend (you) becomes his fiance-in-law. (Joreth)
...the Bride & Groom nearly end up in a sword fight over who gets the Best Mate on whose side. (Joreth)
...And then the Best Mate and the Groom nearly end up in a sword fight over who gets the Bride. (Joreth)
... The Bride & the Best Mate don't need to get into a sword fight over the Groom because they've already tag-teamed him and they have a contingency plan to save him for food when the zombie apocalypse happens. (Joreth)
...your extra-competitive partner can't let you Eiffel Tower her more than she's Eiffel Towered you, so she and your other partner literally stop what they're doing to Eiffel Tower you a few more times (whether you consented to it or not), and invent a Tower of Babylon while they're at it so that you can't even hope to catch up when it's your turn to Eiffel Tower her later. (Joreth)
1. I left out attributions to the Facebook contributors since FB requires real names. If you want yours to be attributed, feel free to say so in the comments, along with your preferred name, and I'll edit this post.2. I will periodically re-check the hashtag & FB thread and update this post with new additions. Feel free to add to this list in the comments.