*grumble grumble*

[joreth]

I am so sick of this stupid argument. If I ever change my mind (and at 32 with no doubts in sight), I will adopt. I've had people tell me that adoption isn't the same thing. I love the look on their face when I respond that *I* am adopted, and would they like to tell my mother that she doesn't *really* love me like my *real* mother would after she's sacrificed and worried and endured hardship for over 30 years, all for the love of the baby she believes that god gave her when her body failed her?

I also say, so what if I change my mind later? Isn’t living with the consequences of our actions all part of being a grown-up? If I change my mind about *having* kids, I can’t reverse the decision, it's not like I can return them to the store.  But if I change my mind about *not* having kids, there are plenty of alternatives available. Including the likelihood that, as I get older, my dating pool will have an increased number of males who already have children.

 

I knew when I was 6, I knew when I was 12, I knew when I was 18, I knew when I was 24, I knew when I had an abortion, I knew when I was 30, and at nearly 33, I STILL know that I DO NOT WANT KIDS and have absolutely no doubts or regrets at not having them. It’s one of the few things about my goals, dreams and plans that has never changed.

How f*cking condescending is it to say “when you meet the right man, you’ll change your mind”. Bull! The “right man” *also* does not want kids.

Thanks datan0de, for the Twitter link!

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When I was in college, I took a Constitutional Law class. Our final project was to argue a case about abortion. I was asked to argue in favor of the right to have an abortion. The case was an actual case which had already been heard and we were assuming it was being appealed. The case involved minors and whether they should be allowed to have an abortion without parental consent. One argument in the original case was that teenagers aren't mature enough to make that decision. I stated that we rejected that claim because if the teenager isn't mature enough to make the decision, she isn't mature enough to have a baby and possibly become a mother either. The professor underlined that statement and wrote "good point." I got an A+ for the project.