Why I'm A Bottom And Not A Sub...

[joreth]

A playfellow I'll be, but no man's toy.  A partner, helper, but no one's servant nor slave.  I will be captain of my fate and commander of my destiny, though the path I may share and the course I chart be followed by others.  What I have, I'll share, but I'll not give it over.  What I am, I am, and I'll not change it  What I will be, I will be, by my own will and no other.
~Mercedes Lackey, The Fairy Godmother

...although this does not preclude me from voluntarily giving up "control" in a temporary BDSM setting with very particular individiuals, but this is how I see life in general.

Comments

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

COOL quote! *gaks it for my Quotes page*

[joreth]

Yeah, color me surprised to find it in a fantasy novel about how Fairy Godmothers get their jobs.

I thought about this whole long elaboration on what it means to me and the difference between that mindset in general and the voluntary giving up of "control" in a BDSM setting.

Then I decided the quote was just shiny enough to stand on its own.