cunningminx is doing a new segment at
Poly Weekly, in which listeners write or call in their happy poly moments. I recently had one, so I thought I'd email her mine. I don't know if it will get read on the show, but since I also have a polyamory tag here, I thought I'd relate the story for my LJ too:
I had a happy poly moment last November when the metamour from my then-partner came into town for a visit. I was dating
zen_shooter at the time, who lives half the month in my town and half the month in another state for work. He is dating
may_dryad who lives in the other state, but not the same town and both have family at home, so they rarely get any alone-time. So she came into town for his birthday and I was planning on leaving his house before she arrived so they could have their alone-time right from the start. But the night before,
zen_shooter and I had sex and made a mess of the sheets. I thought it would be nice if the sheets were clean before they used them together. So I did some laundry while he did errands before picking her up.
zen_shooter air-dries all his laundry to be environmentally friendly, but it leaves his sheets and towels rather stiff and scratchy.
may_dryad and I both prefer to put our linens in the dryer, so I figured, since I was doing laundry anyway, I would throw in one of his towels especially for her and put it in the dryer.
Well, the laundry took a little longer than expected, and they both arrived a few minutes before it was done, which means that I couldn't make myself scarce for them (not that either of them objected to me being there). But the upside is that I got to present to her a freshly laundered and dried towel especially for her use while she visited. She was very appreciative and I left them to their alone-time feeling helpful and knowing that she knew that I valued her presence in his life. I enjoyed showing her that I cared about her by listening to her comments of scratchy towels and doing something for her that she would appreciate (for those who curious - that would be the Service-Oriented Love Language, which is explained in the awesome book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman)
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Date: 2/2/09 03:16 am (UTC)From:And my former metamour is a hoopy frood who really knows where her towel is.