That's Not A Poly Problem

[joreth]

I just found this article.  I am often plagued with questions about polyamory, something I set myself up for because I am "out" and an activist.  I can launch into long diatribes about polyamory and pretty much any subset of poly that these questions address.  I have elaborate stories for how monogamous people also go through such and such and how we're not really any different, just more honest.  But someone summed up all my answers with one phrase:  "That's not a poly problem" .  He clarifies that he does not mean poly people don't have that problem, but that all relationships have those problems and they're not in existence simply because the relationship in question is poly.

I am going to steal this for my future discussions of polyamory.

Comments

[quadrapop.livejournal.com]

hehe I have a similar situation with homeschooling - many times you get told 'oh taht is because you homeschool' but often the issue is simply a parenting issue not having anything to do with the chosen education style... my standard reply is "that is a parenting issue not an educational one..."

It's not a poly problem, it's a relationship problem... lol