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Q. Straight women, can you imagine yourself taking part in an FMF threesome? Those who had one, did you enjoy it?
A. I have on many occasions. I enjoyed pretty much all of them, although several of them caused me to regret doing them after the fact based on how the other people behaved afterwards. Being in a threesome does not necessarily mean that you have to have direct sexual contact with both other people. Sometimes it can mean “ganging up” on one of the other people, or “tag-teaming” them. That’s how I have FMF threesomes while being straight.
Also, I’m not afraid of accidental contact with the other woman. We might not be directly sexual with each other, but it helps if we don’t mind it when we just happen to touch each other simply due to proximity, and we can also enjoy non-sexual touching such as hand-holding, hugging, cuddling, etc.
But being straight and in group sex situations with people of the same gender is, for me, best when we look at it as being on the “same team”, where we are there to support each other and have fun together with someone we both happen to like. It can be a lot of fun to scheme and plot with another woman about how to sexually tease, “torture”, and please someone we both love, or at least are both attracted to. It can be a bonding experience if the threesome is with people with whom I have some kind of emotional connection in addition to the sexual attraction.
It can also be a minefield if one or both of the other people don’t have their own emotional ducks in a row, so to speak. If they get into a threesome for the wrong reasons (the only good reason is “because I think it sounds fun and I like the other people involved”), if anyone harbors any resentment or negative feelings about it (other than regular anxiety that may come with a first-time sexual experience of any sort), or if anyone has such insecurities that they feel the need to script out the encounter or dictate what *other people* can and can’t do with their bodies or they try to avoid or suppress any emotions.
Some of the threesomes that I regretted were ones where at least one of the other people had some kind of insecurity that prompted them to either restrict me and the third person from engaging in particular activities, or to *require* us to engage in particular activities. Other regrettable threesomes involved one or more people doing it to “please” someone else or because they were afraid they would lose a partner if they didn’t.
And yet other regrettable threesomes involved one or more people who felt that a threesome was necessary for group cohesion. Meaning that the two of us women were both involved with the man but she and I were friends, and one or both of them felt that we had to have group sex in order to maintain the friendly bond between us, as if having private one-on-one sex would harm the group in some way.
These guidelines for what I have found makes for happy and successful threesomes and what tends to make for regrettable threesomes apply no matter what the genders of the 3 people are (I have had a lot of MFM threesomes too) and they also apply to group sex of people more than 3 (I have had quite a few foursomes and orgies as well).
Q. Straight women, can you imagine yourself taking part in an FMF threesome? Those who had one, did you enjoy it?
A. I have on many occasions. I enjoyed pretty much all of them, although several of them caused me to regret doing them after the fact based on how the other people behaved afterwards. Being in a threesome does not necessarily mean that you have to have direct sexual contact with both other people. Sometimes it can mean “ganging up” on one of the other people, or “tag-teaming” them. That’s how I have FMF threesomes while being straight.
Also, I’m not afraid of accidental contact with the other woman. We might not be directly sexual with each other, but it helps if we don’t mind it when we just happen to touch each other simply due to proximity, and we can also enjoy non-sexual touching such as hand-holding, hugging, cuddling, etc.
But being straight and in group sex situations with people of the same gender is, for me, best when we look at it as being on the “same team”, where we are there to support each other and have fun together with someone we both happen to like. It can be a lot of fun to scheme and plot with another woman about how to sexually tease, “torture”, and please someone we both love, or at least are both attracted to. It can be a bonding experience if the threesome is with people with whom I have some kind of emotional connection in addition to the sexual attraction.
It can also be a minefield if one or both of the other people don’t have their own emotional ducks in a row, so to speak. If they get into a threesome for the wrong reasons (the only good reason is “because I think it sounds fun and I like the other people involved”), if anyone harbors any resentment or negative feelings about it (other than regular anxiety that may come with a first-time sexual experience of any sort), or if anyone has such insecurities that they feel the need to script out the encounter or dictate what *other people* can and can’t do with their bodies or they try to avoid or suppress any emotions.
Some of the threesomes that I regretted were ones where at least one of the other people had some kind of insecurity that prompted them to either restrict me and the third person from engaging in particular activities, or to *require* us to engage in particular activities. Other regrettable threesomes involved one or more people doing it to “please” someone else or because they were afraid they would lose a partner if they didn’t.
And yet other regrettable threesomes involved one or more people who felt that a threesome was necessary for group cohesion. Meaning that the two of us women were both involved with the man but she and I were friends, and one or both of them felt that we had to have group sex in order to maintain the friendly bond between us, as if having private one-on-one sex would harm the group in some way.
These guidelines for what I have found makes for happy and successful threesomes and what tends to make for regrettable threesomes apply no matter what the genders of the 3 people are (I have had a lot of MFM threesomes too) and they also apply to group sex of people more than 3 (I have had quite a few foursomes and orgies as well).
