How Do I Make My Wife Care About Her Own Orgasm?

[joreth]

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Q. What can I do if I would like for my wife to have an orgasm but she doesn't care if she does or not?

A. Let it go. It’s her body, her orgasm, so her desire to have one or not is the only one that matters.

Stop making her orgasms about you and what you want. If she’s ever going to have one, it won’t be while feeling pressured to have one just to make you feel better about giving her one.

I’m going to say this again: stop making her orgasms about you and what you want.

It’s so frustrating being a straight woman when so many men want to make my pleasure all about them. Take some lessons from lesbian sex - it’s not all about the orgasm. If you make sex all about the orgasm, you’re missing out on about 99% of the fun of sex.

1. It’s not about you.
2. It’s not about the orgasm.
3. It’s not about the penetration.

Just let her enjoy sex the way she wants to enjoy it, if you care about her experience at all. She doesn’t need to experience sex in the same way that you do for it to be a pleasurable experience for her. And she definitely doesn’t need for her ability to orgasm or not to become some kind of statement about you.

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