joreth: (::headdesk::)
It never fails.  It is seriously the same conversation.  Every single goddamn time, y'all think you're going to have something novel to say that I've never heard of before and it's never new.  Never.  I have not once been surprised by this.


JurisDr2000
33, Man, Los Angeles, CA, USA

Aug 5, 0:34
JurisDr2000: rawwwr

3:23
JurisDr2000: usually up late?

Aug 7, 13:45
Joreth:  Read the profile

17:11
JurisDr2000: so i must know

how is it that u dont mind having spiritual friends but not partners

i ask because you seem to enjoy intellectual conversation

Joreth:  I do not have to have the same level of intimacy with friends that I do with partners. I *can* have that level of emotional intimacy, but I don't have to. I can refrain from discussing certain topics with friends and have that friendship survive.

But I do not block paths to intimacy in my romantic relationships, and avoiding speaking on topics blocks paths to intimacy.

I enjoy intellectual conversation, but I do not like having the same conversation repeatedly, and I have now had enough conversations with people who swear they have something new to talk about who don't, that I am no longer interested in discussing issues of spirituality with anyone.

JurisDr2000: lol i can most definitely understand that

im more curious to pick your brain then introducr anything "new"

Joreth:  and most people who have spiritual beliefs find my opinions on those beliefs offensive, which strains intimacy. Therefore I can have a platonic friendship with some limitations on intimacy with people who have spiritual beliefs but not with a romantic partner

JurisDr2000: thats interesting

one would thing spirituality brings balance and that lack off necessity to impress that upon others

but who am i to say

Joreth:  "picking my brain" is touchy. On the one hand, I am a consultant and I can offer my advice and insight for a fee. On the other hand, having the same conversation over and over again is exhausting

JurisDr2000: lol fee arrangement already huh

Joreth:  you're asking me to perform a service

JurisDr2000: i see you have your road map already prefabricated

Joreth:  and here we go with the predictable conversation

::block::

What always follows from this is how I have decided who and what he is and wants and I'm close-minded and intolerant for not allowing someone to interrogate me on my beliefs or lack thereof and how I should be open to this conversation and also enlightening other people whenever they want if I were truly "open" or "tolerant" or "unbiased" or even "curious" or "intellectually honest".  And also how he was totes just trying to have a friendly conversation and how he is totally "open minded" and "tolerant" and "just curious" even though he immediately swung to judgement and condemnation and bias, but somehow I'm the one who has to listen to his shit.

No.  I have done that enough times now and discovered that it is literally always the same conversation and I'm tired of having it.  I. am. not. interested.  I don't care what your spiritual beliefs are.  I guarantee I have heard them from someone else before.  I don't care if you think you want to understand mine (or lack thereof).  I guarantee that you won't get them, because if you did, you wouldn't be having this conversation with me in the first place.

I'm TIRED.  I don't want friends or partners to "challenge" me.  I want them to *support* me in my growth and development as a human being (which does, in fact, require them to occasionally call me on my bullshit but in a supportive way), but I have no desire to be "challenged" anymore.  I want partners, friends, and family, not adversaries.  And also not non-paying clients expecting me to do *work* for them.

Do your own goddamn research / emotional labor / academic studies / relationship improvement classes or fucking pay me for my time.

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