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www.quora.com/Polyamorous-people-If-you-could-marry-all-or-several-of-your-partners-would-you/answer/Joreth-Innkeeper
Q. Polyamorous people: If you could marry all (or several of) your partners, would you?
A. No, I want the government to get out of the business of regulating my sex and love life entirely, not give it more avenues to stick its nose in who I’m fucking.
I want for all the rights and responsibilities that a government can offer to be made available to anyone and everyone who is otherwise eligible to enter into any kind of legal contract. Want to assign someone federal inheritance rights that can’t be contested by family? Done. Want to assign two people as the beneficiary of your social security benefits? Done.
I want for there to be a small collection of “package deals” where a bunch of these rights and responsibilities are all bundled together, according to how popular it is for people to want to bundle them together, and everything else is a “pick and choose” and “build your own contract” sort of a thing, and then anyone who can legally enter into contracts can do so.
Just like anyone who can legally enter into contracts can enter into corporate structures. Nowhere do we restrict who can enter into a corporation or legal entity based on who that person is having sex with, and nowhere can we nullify a corporation or legal entity based on a government official evaluating the validity of the participants “love” for each other.
I want these contracts to be regulated by civil contract law, not criminal law. And I want them to have absolutely nothing to do with anyone’s genitals or anyone’s emotions. Nobody has grounds to sue the other person for economic benefits just because the other person’s genitals touched someone else (however, passing along a serious infection because one person was not notified about non-monogamous activity to give informed consent should still be actionable, perhaps under criminal law as a violation of bodily autonomy).
Nobody’s immigration status gets validated based on whether or not a federal agent “believes” that they have “true love” for their sponsor. Did each person uphold the economic responsibilities outlined in the contract? If yes, then it’s good. If not, then the contract spells out the consequences that are relevant to the responsibilities that were broken.
So, no, I would not *want* to marry everyone if it were legal to do so. However, if that were the only option available to me to obtain certain legal or economic benefits because society finally recognized the validity of multi-adult romantic relationships but still privileged romantic relationships over other relationships, then I might consider it if it was more important for me to obtain those benefits than to go without. I may conscientiously object to the structure of the system, but if that’s the only way I can survive, then I’ll take what’s available.
Q. Polyamorous people: If you could marry all (or several of) your partners, would you?
A. No, I want the government to get out of the business of regulating my sex and love life entirely, not give it more avenues to stick its nose in who I’m fucking.
I want for all the rights and responsibilities that a government can offer to be made available to anyone and everyone who is otherwise eligible to enter into any kind of legal contract. Want to assign someone federal inheritance rights that can’t be contested by family? Done. Want to assign two people as the beneficiary of your social security benefits? Done.
I want for there to be a small collection of “package deals” where a bunch of these rights and responsibilities are all bundled together, according to how popular it is for people to want to bundle them together, and everything else is a “pick and choose” and “build your own contract” sort of a thing, and then anyone who can legally enter into contracts can do so.
Just like anyone who can legally enter into contracts can enter into corporate structures. Nowhere do we restrict who can enter into a corporation or legal entity based on who that person is having sex with, and nowhere can we nullify a corporation or legal entity based on a government official evaluating the validity of the participants “love” for each other.
I want these contracts to be regulated by civil contract law, not criminal law. And I want them to have absolutely nothing to do with anyone’s genitals or anyone’s emotions. Nobody has grounds to sue the other person for economic benefits just because the other person’s genitals touched someone else (however, passing along a serious infection because one person was not notified about non-monogamous activity to give informed consent should still be actionable, perhaps under criminal law as a violation of bodily autonomy).
Nobody’s immigration status gets validated based on whether or not a federal agent “believes” that they have “true love” for their sponsor. Did each person uphold the economic responsibilities outlined in the contract? If yes, then it’s good. If not, then the contract spells out the consequences that are relevant to the responsibilities that were broken.
So, no, I would not *want* to marry everyone if it were legal to do so. However, if that were the only option available to me to obtain certain legal or economic benefits because society finally recognized the validity of multi-adult romantic relationships but still privileged romantic relationships over other relationships, then I might consider it if it was more important for me to obtain those benefits than to go without. I may conscientiously object to the structure of the system, but if that’s the only way I can survive, then I’ll take what’s available.
