Purity Balls Not Just For Girls

[joreth]

http://feministing.com/archives/006375.html

  Well, technically, they still are, but there is a boy-version too, called the Integrity Ball.  I kid you not.  It's equally detestable but for the opposite reasons:

Dating your parents: Not just for girls anymore  

That's right. There's now an event, sorta like a Purity Ball, only for boys and their mothers: the Integrity Ball. Why is this glamorous evening not called a Purity Ball, too? Because it's not up to young men to stay "pure." They just have to seek out a wife who is:

Baker told the young men that the women they had come with, their mothers, were somebody’s daughters, and they meant the world to those parents. He further told them that when they date a girl, she is somebody’s daughter, and they care deeply for her. 

Baker also told them that while they might not believe it at the time, the girl they may date in high school is probably not going to be the one they will marry. “So you’re dating someone else’s future wife,” he told them. He also told them that someone else may be dating their future wife.

“If you knew somebody was with your future wife,” Baker asked them, “touching her in ways you wouldn’t like, pressuring her, how would that make you feel?”

Even though it's a program for boys, it's still all about how young women need to be pure! Notice how they're taught that women always, at every stage of their lives, "belong" to a man. First daddy, then some "future husband" they haven't met, then a husband. The Integrity Ball speakers don't say that men will stand at the altar symbolically accompanied by all of their previous sexual partners. Nope, that burden is the woman's alone, if she hasn't maintained her purity.

Speaking of self-control and the meaning of sex, Baker told the young men, “Having sex doesn’t make you a man. Dogs have sex, but it doesn’t make them a man. Guys, separate yourselves from the animal kingdom.”

Sure, it's good to tell young men that they shouldn't pressure their partners into having sex. But of course it's never acknowledged that their girlfriends might have "animal urges" as well. All of the language echoes the same old abstinence-only stereotypes: "women are passive receptacles who don't enjoy sex" and "men are horny animals who can't control themselves."

And this is just amusing:

Mothers and sons then had an opportunity to get out on the dance floor together, enjoying songs such as “Unchained Melody” by the Righteous Brothers, “Old Time Rock & Roll” by Bob Seger and others.

Think they were workin' on the night moves as well? And can you even imagine what the slow-dance to "Unchained Melody" looked like? They should call this thing the Oedipal Ball. I can't wait for the YouTube  video.

Comments

[slouchinphysics.livejournal.com]

Wow just wow! You know there are times I feel kinda kinky and I know I have friends that I would with out argument hang the moniker kinky on. But again just like their surprising penchant for airport unrinal hookups the good Christians of the work show me I know nothing about kink! I wonder if after this do mom and dad go home and imagine they are with little jimmy or little suzy when schtupping their lawfully wedded spouse? Or do they just cut out the middle man? Well I'm looking forward to the day when these dances have been going on long enough that we can examine them as a full statistical sample and see if going to these correlates with sexual abuse. Personally I'd be rather interested to find out. Or maybe thats just my desire for it to be statistically shown that this shit is fucked up.