6 Steps To Finding People To Date

[joreth]

My 6 Simple Steps to answer the question "how do you find people to start dating?"

1. Go to where the poly people are [or people who are whatever category of person you're interested in dating].
    
2. Be as open about yourself as you can in as many contexts as you can - other polys [or whatever category] nearby will find you.
    
3. Be open to meeting new people and trying new experiences, even if they don't meet some idealized image you have in your mind.
    
4. Be interesting and do interesting things. People are attracted to interesting people.
    
5. Treat everyone you meet as a unique individual. People find having their agency and humanity respected to be attractive.
    
6. Be patient.

This came at the end as a summary of a longer post, but I was writing that post on my tiny iPod and I don't think it's really that good of a post. My thoughts were kind of scattered and I didn't elucidate each point well or organize them well. That's how I ended up with this numbered list - I was trying to clarify and simplify the rest of the post.

So I'd like to rewrite it out for a real blog post. But later, because I'm still doing Halloween shopping and it's my one day off this week. In the meantime, here's the tl;dr version.