OKBingo!

[joreth]

http://onlinedating-adventures.tumblr.com/post/41921984085/okbingo - My new favorite online game.

Guys, if you do 2 of these in one email, I'm posting it all over the internet and you're getting a blog entry from me where women everywhere will mock you for your cluelessness/douchebaggery.

Another game option: try to find one of my online skeezballs or feminist rants that doesn't have something on this Bingo card!

Comments

[admnaismith.livejournal.com]

Now I'm imagining someone with a profile that says DO message me if you only date assholes. Points for honesty? Attempted irony? Attempt at the kind of pick up line that's supposed to appeal because of quirky randomness?

Also, I'll be disappointed if the term 'gentleman' comes to have the same negative connotations as 'nice guy'. A gentleman is supposed to be a well-mannered, cultured, self-assured badass who treats women with courtesy and respect without being patronizing or putting them on limiting pedestals. Feeps are NOT allowed to use the 'gentleman' label as a mask to try to scam clumsy sex, or actual gentlemen will be forced to give them a lesson in manners!

[joreth]

I am *all for* the idea of men with feminist values (whether they recognize them as "feminist" or not) publicly taking to task men who have co-opted and corrupted the labels "Nice Guy" and "gentleman" and taking those words back. Socially shaming and punishing them for using words that are supposed to imply kindness and courtesy to, instead, reinforce gender roles, sexism, and misogyny sound like excellent activities for true gentlemen. I will happily revise my derogatory use of the terms when good men reclaim them and assholes can no longer get away with hiding behind those labels to excuse their bad behaviour.

Gentleman

[ewen]

That seems very "You insulted my brothers. Prepare to die." (cf Inigo Montoya).

Unfortunately there seems to be a Universal Law of Marketing that something can't be both simultaneously true and also in the marketing spiel: if it's obvious without saying it, it doesn't need to be said, and if it's not obvious without saying it, it's probably not true -- so the only time it's said is when it's at minimum and exaggeration ("seaview").

I also think that "gentleman" is something that other people say about you; if you're saying it about yourself, especially in a profile, it's marketing.

Ewen