Joreth's Johari Window

[joreth]

The Johari Window was invented by Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham in the 1950s as a model for mapping personality awareness. By describing yourself from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking your friends and colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of overlap and difference can be built up.

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about other people's perceptions of me.  I just got off the phone with my high school sweetheart - a scheduled "date" where I asked him to describe to me our relationship & our breakup from his perspective, so I could see how I looked through his eyes.  I was pleased to learn that his therapist says that I was the healthiest relationship he'd ever had, & that he continues to admire me to this day, especially my communication & relationship skills, and also that he has no regrets about our relationship and said that, if he had to go through high school, he was glad to have done so with me.  

He said that our high school relationship didn't even have the usual sorts of drama that teenagers have, we just got along & we discussed but didn't fight.  He actually never saw my legendary temper (and that was at its peak, when I was still breaking things), although he saw the aftermath whenever my parents or sister triggered it.  He never saw it mainly because he was just a decent guy.  As tacit likes to say, "It's easy not to piss off Joreth - don't be an asshole."

Anyway, this list has pretty much only flattering or positive traits, so it's certainly not a whole-picture kind of exercise.  But I do think it's beneficial to see how other people see me.

You can get your own Johari Window, or contribute to Joreth's.

Arena (known to self and others) complex, independent, intelligent, introverted, logical	Blind Spot (known only to others) able, adaptable, bold, brave, calm, confident, friendly, knowledgeable, mature, organised, patient, powerful, proud, quiet, relaxed, searching, self-assertive, sensible, sympathetic, trustworthy, warm
Façade (known only to self) loving	Unknown (known to nobody) accepting, caring, cheerful, clever, dependable, dignified, energetic, extroverted, giving, happy, helpful, idealistic, ingenious, kind, modest, nervous, observant, reflective, religious, responsive, self-conscious, sentimental, shy, silly, spontaneous, tense, wise, witty

All Percentages

able (25%) accepting (0%) adaptable (12%) bold (12%) brave (12%) calm (37%) caring (0%) cheerful (0%) clever (0%) complex (25%) confident (25%) dependable (0%) dignified (0%) energetic (0%) extroverted (0%) friendly (25%) giving (0%) happy (0%) helpful (0%) idealistic (0%) independent (37%) ingenious (0%) intelligent (37%) introverted (12%) kind (0%) knowledgeable (50%) logical (25%) loving (0%) mature (12%) modest (0%) nervous (0%) observant (0%) organised (12%) patient (50%) powerful (12%) proud (12%) quiet (12%) reflective (0%) relaxed (12%) religious (0%) responsive (0%) searching (12%) self-assertive (37%) self-conscious (0%) sensible (12%) sentimental (0%) shy (0%) silly (0%) spontaneous (0%) sympathetic (12%) tense (0%) trustworthy (12%) warm (12%) wise (0%) witty (0%)

Created by the Interactive Johari Window on 25.5.2012, using data from 8 respondents.
You can make your own Johari Window, or view Joreth's full data.

Comments

[the-failed-poet.livejournal.com]

Oh wow! I haven't seen this in years! I had a Johari window back in high school when all my friends were doing it. There's also a Nohari window which is the same thing but only for negative qualities.

It certainly was an interesting exercise, but I feel like it requires a lot of people to fill it out to be useful.

[the-failed-poet.livejournal.com]

Also, it requires you to limit your choices to 5 or 6, which obviously doesn't paint a complete picture.