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How To Understand Women:
1) Stop thinking we're all the same.
2) Ask us individually about ourselves.
3) Profit! (by not being a jerk & having women like you, not by writing a book or selling lectures - that would be being a jerk).
It's very simple people. The trick to understanding "women" is to stop treating us like a single magical alien creature. You will never understand "women". At best, you might understand the individual women you take the time to get to know. Same goes for men (and any other gender).
The REASON you can't "understand women" is because you keep expecting us all to follow a single set of rules, and we don't, just like men are not all the same. If you keep expecting me to act like my sister, you will continue to be baffled & confused & surprised, every single time. If you don't want me to treat you like my ex-boyfriend, don't try to "figure us out" like I'm the same as your ex-girlfriend.
I am human first, a whole shitload of other labels second, and a woman last and only to those for whom it is important, like my partners. If I don't give you access to my genitals, then my genitals are not relevant to my interactions with you. Treat me like a person, a human, a unique individual deserving of dignity and compassion and respect, and I guarantee you will get much further in your quest to "understand women" - at least this one.
1) Stop thinking we're all the same.
2) Ask us individually about ourselves.
3) Profit! (by not being a jerk & having women like you, not by writing a book or selling lectures - that would be being a jerk).
It's very simple people. The trick to understanding "women" is to stop treating us like a single magical alien creature. You will never understand "women". At best, you might understand the individual women you take the time to get to know. Same goes for men (and any other gender).
The REASON you can't "understand women" is because you keep expecting us all to follow a single set of rules, and we don't, just like men are not all the same. If you keep expecting me to act like my sister, you will continue to be baffled & confused & surprised, every single time. If you don't want me to treat you like my ex-boyfriend, don't try to "figure us out" like I'm the same as your ex-girlfriend.
I am human first, a whole shitload of other labels second, and a woman last and only to those for whom it is important, like my partners. If I don't give you access to my genitals, then my genitals are not relevant to my interactions with you. Treat me like a person, a human, a unique individual deserving of dignity and compassion and respect, and I guarantee you will get much further in your quest to "understand women" - at least this one.
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Date: 1/8/12 10:41 am (UTC)From:And then I have to go back and remind people that not all women are the same. Time and time again I hear arguments like "women are always great because all women are good at something".
*sigh*. It is a shame that something as obvious as this needs to be said so often: Treat people as individuals. Don't assume stuff about them based upon their sex.
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Date: 1/8/12 10:51 am (UTC)From: