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Bluegenes doesn't think you're worth the effort! He actually said so - in public! Sounds like a GREAT catch, doesn't he?
Seriously. My most recent journal post was some simple advice for how to write a first contact email. The bottom line was to READ THE PROFILE and then write a unique email that referenced things from the profile to show that you read it. That's it. Nothing more fancy than that. In fact, I had a much longer list of things NOT to do.
Then this jackass came along and said that reading a profile & commenting on things you had in common was too much work.
Yes, he said too much work. That's not a paraphrase, you can see it if you read the comments in the post just below this one in my journal.
So, basically, you are not worth the effort of getting to know. All that time you put into writing your profile to make sure it reflected you accurately but positively, to highlight your areas of interest, to weed out people who are obviously incompatible, none of that was worth ANYTHING. You do not matter, you are not important. You are just a body with tits that Bluegenes feels entitled to. He expects you to put forth all the effort when he can't even be bothered to take a few minutes to read the profile to see if you're even available or interested in the same things he is.
I bet his partners feel all sorts of important and special. Or, wait, I got that mixed up. Neglected, ignored, and UNimportant. Sorry, that's what I meant.
(Now see, if he had read my profile, he would have known this is how I would respond and he could have avoided this whole thing by just walking away. The whole POINT of online dating is the profile. Otherwise, go pick up someone in a bar - it's just as random as hitting on women based on their pictures without reading the profile.)
cross-posted at http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Joreth/journal/8331765305174442110/Hey-Ladies...
Seriously. My most recent journal post was some simple advice for how to write a first contact email. The bottom line was to READ THE PROFILE and then write a unique email that referenced things from the profile to show that you read it. That's it. Nothing more fancy than that. In fact, I had a much longer list of things NOT to do.
Then this jackass came along and said that reading a profile & commenting on things you had in common was too much work.
Yes, he said too much work. That's not a paraphrase, you can see it if you read the comments in the post just below this one in my journal.
So, basically, you are not worth the effort of getting to know. All that time you put into writing your profile to make sure it reflected you accurately but positively, to highlight your areas of interest, to weed out people who are obviously incompatible, none of that was worth ANYTHING. You do not matter, you are not important. You are just a body with tits that Bluegenes feels entitled to. He expects you to put forth all the effort when he can't even be bothered to take a few minutes to read the profile to see if you're even available or interested in the same things he is.
I bet his partners feel all sorts of important and special. Or, wait, I got that mixed up. Neglected, ignored, and UNimportant. Sorry, that's what I meant.
(Now see, if he had read my profile, he would have known this is how I would respond and he could have avoided this whole thing by just walking away. The whole POINT of online dating is the profile. Otherwise, go pick up someone in a bar - it's just as random as hitting on women based on their pictures without reading the profile.)
cross-posted at http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Joreth/journal/8331765305174442110/Hey-Ladies...
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Date: 4/16/11 02:52 am (UTC)From:(Yeah I could log out or use a different browser, if I really wanted to. :)
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Date: 4/16/11 02:56 am (UTC)From:But I'm also in a bad mood, so that's probably not the best advice :-)
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Date: 4/16/11 07:30 am (UTC)From:ha ha ha, oh dear,
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