i was married for 11 years, was non-mongamous before that marriage and we were polyamorous for the last 9-1/2 years of the marriage. the marriage ended when his other partner decided after a few months that she couldn't handle polyamory. i suppose those sort of folks would say that polyamory failed or that my marriage failed because it was polyamorous.
i don't consider my former marriage a poly failure. i don't consider a relationship ending to be a failure. not all relationships are going to last 'til death do us part'! that doesn't make them failures.
i'm now engaged to be married again. we have dated for the last three years, and we have both had other partners throughout that time. when we decided to commit to marriage, our other relationships had ended for various reasons, and we agreed to be monogamous for an open-ended period of time. we will keep the possibility of polyamory open for discussion, but right now neither of us is interested in having other partners.
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Date: 9/25/08 11:29 pm (UTC)From:i don't consider my former marriage a poly failure. i don't consider a relationship ending to be a failure. not all relationships are going to last 'til death do us part'! that doesn't make them failures.
i'm now engaged to be married again. we have dated for the last three years, and we have both had other partners throughout that time. when we decided to commit to marriage, our other relationships had ended for various reasons, and we agreed to be monogamous for an open-ended period of time. we will keep the possibility of polyamory open for discussion, but right now neither of us is interested in having other partners.