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OK, this show is not actually "poly", but I'm finding it has a surprising amount of relevance to my own life.
http://www.tbs.com/video/0,,97693|340865|,00.html
The main character is a girl named PJ. She is a serious tomboy who works as a sports writer, and all her friends are men. She has a circle of particularly close friends, and this series is all about a tomboy girl living in a guy's world, and the guys in her world.
Much of the show takes place during their poker games, where the guys (and PJ) all sit around and discuss their lives, with a few peeks into PJ's daily life and the trials and tribulations she has as a woman who actively likes "guy things" and doesn't relate well to "girlie" women, but who is straight and wants relationships just like any other person, as well as the difficulty in dating men when she already has a group of men in her life.
The relevance I'm finding is that I am also a tomboy and have a lot of trouble relating to "girlie" girls, and most of the time I just don't *get* the things I'm "supposed" to like or do because I'm female. There is one scene where PJ accepts a "booty call". Earlier in the episode, she is discussing booty calls with her guy friends and points out that to a guy, a booty call is when he gets a little nooky with no strings attached. A girl's version of a booty call is where she wants to be held and comforted, and have him fix things or kill spiders, basically it's a little emotional "nooky" with no strings attached. So, PJ meets this guy and she's getting into him. She decides she wants a little nooky too. So they start making out, and he says "I just want to say that I really like you and whatever happens tonight..." She cuts him off by responding "Oh, Bobby, you don't need to give me The Speech." He asks "what speech?" She says "Oh you know, the We'll Be Friends Anyway speech ... Let's be honest, we're both grown ups here, right?" He gets all wierded out and gets up off the bed. She apologizes and says "come sit down, we'll take it slower", which sets him off again. "That's what's freaking me out. Can you maybe not say the guy stuff? I mean, guys act like that. Girls say things like 'Wait, why is this happening so fast' or 'how do I know this isn't just a one night stand'". PJ says "but that would be completely acting!" His response? "Yeah, but that's hot!" So she humors him and says the words he wants to hear, but he doesn't like that she's mocking him. He leaves without the big finish. I get this stuff all the time! People freak out when I act like a "guy" and don't respond they way they think I *should*, even if I make things easier on people by acting like that.
The only part about this show that isn't totally me, is that since PJ is a sports writer, she often makes analogies and comparisons to sports, which I totally don't get, but that's a theatre tech thing, not a girl thing. In this case, however, the sports analogies work quite well.
Some quotes taken from the series so far that just seem to make sense to me:
"I guess you could say my place is the team's (referring to her "boys", her social group) clubhouse. It's like the player's second home where we celebrate wins and pick each other up after losses" - a poly quote if I ever heard one!
"You can do what you always do ... date him until he can't handle all the guys in your life, and then break up with him because he's crazy for being jealous" - this sums up my entire romantic life, even with all the guys in my life were platonic friends.
"My god, why is it that every time I talk to you, I feel like the chick?"
"Having a group of friends is like being part of a team. Great chemistry makes it work. Winning teams always have great chemistry, like the White Socks last year. They just worked. But it's a delicate balance and sometimes adding a new player can totally throw off the team dynamic." - From the episode Team Chemistry ... the whole episode is very polyesque, dealing with introducing new "members" to the social group.
"You can't control who's on your team, sometimes you get stuck with a total jackass and you just have to kinda try and get along with them ... at least until they get traded." - again, an analogy for group relationships, again from Team Chemistry.
"Nowhere is it written that friends have to spend time with their friend's significant others" - from the episode Clubhouse Poison, where PJ is trying to get her new boyfriend to get to know her friends.
"In sports, regardless of how they look on paper, you have to be careful who you introduce into the clubhouse. And the same can be said of friendships, relationships, even your image of yourself. Cuz even a 5-tool player, can upset the balance of a strong, promising team" - How true of poly is that? Same Clubhouse episode.
I highly recommend checking this show out. It just started so there are only a few episodes, but you can watch them all free on the link above.
Much of the show takes place during their poker games, where the guys (and PJ) all sit around and discuss their lives, with a few peeks into PJ's daily life and the trials and tribulations she has as a woman who actively likes "guy things" and doesn't relate well to "girlie" women, but who is straight and wants relationships just like any other person, as well as the difficulty in dating men when she already has a group of men in her life.
The relevance I'm finding is that I am also a tomboy and have a lot of trouble relating to "girlie" girls, and most of the time I just don't *get* the things I'm "supposed" to like or do because I'm female. There is one scene where PJ accepts a "booty call". Earlier in the episode, she is discussing booty calls with her guy friends and points out that to a guy, a booty call is when he gets a little nooky with no strings attached. A girl's version of a booty call is where she wants to be held and comforted, and have him fix things or kill spiders, basically it's a little emotional "nooky" with no strings attached. So, PJ meets this guy and she's getting into him. She decides she wants a little nooky too. So they start making out, and he says "I just want to say that I really like you and whatever happens tonight..." She cuts him off by responding "Oh, Bobby, you don't need to give me The Speech." He asks "what speech?" She says "Oh you know, the We'll Be Friends Anyway speech ... Let's be honest, we're both grown ups here, right?" He gets all wierded out and gets up off the bed. She apologizes and says "come sit down, we'll take it slower", which sets him off again. "That's what's freaking me out. Can you maybe not say the guy stuff? I mean, guys act like that. Girls say things like 'Wait, why is this happening so fast' or 'how do I know this isn't just a one night stand'". PJ says "but that would be completely acting!" His response? "Yeah, but that's hot!" So she humors him and says the words he wants to hear, but he doesn't like that she's mocking him. He leaves without the big finish. I get this stuff all the time! People freak out when I act like a "guy" and don't respond they way they think I *should*, even if I make things easier on people by acting like that.
The only part about this show that isn't totally me, is that since PJ is a sports writer, she often makes analogies and comparisons to sports, which I totally don't get, but that's a theatre tech thing, not a girl thing. In this case, however, the sports analogies work quite well.
Some quotes taken from the series so far that just seem to make sense to me:
"I guess you could say my place is the team's (referring to her "boys", her social group) clubhouse. It's like the player's second home where we celebrate wins and pick each other up after losses" - a poly quote if I ever heard one!
"You can do what you always do ... date him until he can't handle all the guys in your life, and then break up with him because he's crazy for being jealous" - this sums up my entire romantic life, even with all the guys in my life were platonic friends.
"My god, why is it that every time I talk to you, I feel like the chick?"
"Having a group of friends is like being part of a team. Great chemistry makes it work. Winning teams always have great chemistry, like the White Socks last year. They just worked. But it's a delicate balance and sometimes adding a new player can totally throw off the team dynamic." - From the episode Team Chemistry ... the whole episode is very polyesque, dealing with introducing new "members" to the social group.
"You can't control who's on your team, sometimes you get stuck with a total jackass and you just have to kinda try and get along with them ... at least until they get traded." - again, an analogy for group relationships, again from Team Chemistry.
"Nowhere is it written that friends have to spend time with their friend's significant others" - from the episode Clubhouse Poison, where PJ is trying to get her new boyfriend to get to know her friends.
"In sports, regardless of how they look on paper, you have to be careful who you introduce into the clubhouse. And the same can be said of friendships, relationships, even your image of yourself. Cuz even a 5-tool player, can upset the balance of a strong, promising team" - How true of poly is that? Same Clubhouse episode.
I highly recommend checking this show out. It just started so there are only a few episodes, but you can watch them all free on the link above.
