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Q. Is there a difference between a dominant and a true dominant in a D/s relationship?
A. Yes, a "true dominant" is someone who doesn’t have a fucking clue what BDSM is all about and is using the language and the culture of kink to hide behind and excuse just being an asshole.
Everyone else understands that we all have a variety of tendencies and preferences and kinks and interests, and when someone's tendencies lead mostly towards the collection of behaviours and interests that are generally categorized under the heading "dominant", they can take on that identity label if they so choose.
But anyone who tries to gatekeep what a "true dominant" is, or calls themselves that, is anything but.
Q. Is there a difference between a dominant and a true dominant in a D/s relationship?
A. Yes, a "true dominant" is someone who doesn’t have a fucking clue what BDSM is all about and is using the language and the culture of kink to hide behind and excuse just being an asshole.
Everyone else understands that we all have a variety of tendencies and preferences and kinks and interests, and when someone's tendencies lead mostly towards the collection of behaviours and interests that are generally categorized under the heading "dominant", they can take on that identity label if they so choose.
But anyone who tries to gatekeep what a "true dominant" is, or calls themselves that, is anything but.
