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I'm sure I've offended people on more than one occasion with what I was wearing, but this was the one that came to mind:
Q. Have you ever offended somebody with only something you were wearing? What was it that did it?
A. I have a shirt that has a quote by some atheist that says (and I’m paraphrasing) something like “I contend that we are both atheists, I just believe in one fewer god than you”. I wore it one day while spending the weekend with a boyfriend (who is also an atheist).
His friend was having a party that he had planned to go, and I totally forgot about. So when we went to the party, I didn’t even notice what I was wearing, which was the only shirt I had packed for that day. Apparently, the host and his wife are Christians and the shirt offended the wife so much that she emailed the boyfriend after the party and told him that I wasn’t allowed back at her house because of the shirt.
Fortunately, that boyfriend responded by saying 1) if I wasn’t welcome, he didn’t feel welcome either since he shared my views, and 2) if she had no problem with her pagan friends wearing their non-christian religious symbols and openly talking about their non-Christian pagan beliefs, then she was a hypocrite to single out the atheist for expressing our lack of belief as well.
So I never went back to that house again, and the wife was so offended that the boyfriend was offended on my behalf at her offense at my shirt, that it was the final straw in a series of offenses that severed their friendship entirely.
Considering they also disapproved of our being poly (even though she was a webcam girl) and the husband had actually been grooming that boyfriend and their entire circle of friends since high school (he was more than 10 years older and had sought out high schoolers to start a weird “sovereign citizen movement” cult that they thought was pretend like the SCA but he was serious about), I’m totally not sorry about being the final trigger to end that friendship.
I'm sure I've offended people on more than one occasion with what I was wearing, but this was the one that came to mind:
Q. Have you ever offended somebody with only something you were wearing? What was it that did it?
A. I have a shirt that has a quote by some atheist that says (and I’m paraphrasing) something like “I contend that we are both atheists, I just believe in one fewer god than you”. I wore it one day while spending the weekend with a boyfriend (who is also an atheist).His friend was having a party that he had planned to go, and I totally forgot about. So when we went to the party, I didn’t even notice what I was wearing, which was the only shirt I had packed for that day. Apparently, the host and his wife are Christians and the shirt offended the wife so much that she emailed the boyfriend after the party and told him that I wasn’t allowed back at her house because of the shirt.
Fortunately, that boyfriend responded by saying 1) if I wasn’t welcome, he didn’t feel welcome either since he shared my views, and 2) if she had no problem with her pagan friends wearing their non-christian religious symbols and openly talking about their non-Christian pagan beliefs, then she was a hypocrite to single out the atheist for expressing our lack of belief as well.
So I never went back to that house again, and the wife was so offended that the boyfriend was offended on my behalf at her offense at my shirt, that it was the final straw in a series of offenses that severed their friendship entirely.
Considering they also disapproved of our being poly (even though she was a webcam girl) and the husband had actually been grooming that boyfriend and their entire circle of friends since high school (he was more than 10 years older and had sought out high schoolers to start a weird “sovereign citizen movement” cult that they thought was pretend like the SCA but he was serious about), I’m totally not sorry about being the final trigger to end that friendship.
