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Q. What is an activity your spouse introduced you to?
A. BDSM and skepticism. Neither are really “activities” so much as they are very large concepts. Before I met my spouse, I had always been naturally kinky but I had no idea there was a community and a body of literature and … just and. There is so much to BDSM! I had no idea. I just had these compulsions to do certain things, and I didn’t know anyone else like me, so I was muddling through it on my own and making a lot of mistakes.
Then I met my partner. He teaches workshops in kink. Through him I learned there were safer ways to go about exploring the things I wanted to explore, and other people who would join me on my adventures willingly and enthusiastically, and so much more about consent, about who I am as a person, about who I wanted to be, and about the intimacy and connection that can be made through kink with another person.
I actually started dating him by explicitly saying that I wanted our relationship to be a teaching one, where he introduced me to this and other things and he worked with me on certain things. That blossomed very quickly to a relationship between equals, rather than a mentor / student one, with a deep, rich, nuanced connection that we have today.
He also introduced me to skepticism. People think that “skeptic” means “one who doubts”, but it doesn’t. It actually comes from a Greek word for “to question”. Skeptics question things. They are often optimists, endlessly curious, and surprisingly hopeful. But they are grounded in reality.
I had an awful lot of silly beliefs that I *thought* I had questioned and investigated and were sound, but they really weren’t. He showed me how to *really* investigate, how to really explore, how to identify good sources from bad ones, and how to use the method of scientific inquiry to arrive at sound conclusions rooted in reality. My world was literally changed and figuratively turned upside down as everything I had believed up until that point was shown to have been false, or at least misleading.
And because of that, my world actually got bigger, more colorful, more fantastical, more amazing, more detailed, and filled with more mystery and wonderment and awe than before.
My life is better because of Franklin Veaux, in measurable, tangible ways. I am a better person because of him. Even if we still sometimes hold differing opinions and sometimes I get to teach him a thing or two. Maybe even because of that too.
Q. What is an activity your spouse introduced you to?
A. BDSM and skepticism. Neither are really “activities” so much as they are very large concepts. Before I met my spouse, I had always been naturally kinky but I had no idea there was a community and a body of literature and … just and. There is so much to BDSM! I had no idea. I just had these compulsions to do certain things, and I didn’t know anyone else like me, so I was muddling through it on my own and making a lot of mistakes.
Then I met my partner. He teaches workshops in kink. Through him I learned there were safer ways to go about exploring the things I wanted to explore, and other people who would join me on my adventures willingly and enthusiastically, and so much more about consent, about who I am as a person, about who I wanted to be, and about the intimacy and connection that can be made through kink with another person.
I actually started dating him by explicitly saying that I wanted our relationship to be a teaching one, where he introduced me to this and other things and he worked with me on certain things. That blossomed very quickly to a relationship between equals, rather than a mentor / student one, with a deep, rich, nuanced connection that we have today.
He also introduced me to skepticism. People think that “skeptic” means “one who doubts”, but it doesn’t. It actually comes from a Greek word for “to question”. Skeptics question things. They are often optimists, endlessly curious, and surprisingly hopeful. But they are grounded in reality.
I had an awful lot of silly beliefs that I *thought* I had questioned and investigated and were sound, but they really weren’t. He showed me how to *really* investigate, how to really explore, how to identify good sources from bad ones, and how to use the method of scientific inquiry to arrive at sound conclusions rooted in reality. My world was literally changed and figuratively turned upside down as everything I had believed up until that point was shown to have been false, or at least misleading.
And because of that, my world actually got bigger, more colorful, more fantastical, more amazing, more detailed, and filled with more mystery and wonderment and awe than before.
My life is better because of Franklin Veaux, in measurable, tangible ways. I am a better person because of him. Even if we still sometimes hold differing opinions and sometimes I get to teach him a thing or two. Maybe even because of that too.
