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Q. How do you ask someone if they have an STD on the first date before getting it on?
A. Me: “I’m really attracted to you right now.”
Him: “I’m really into you too!”
Me: “Oh yeah? Well, if you give me your gmail address, I’ll link you in to my Google Doc of my sexual history and all my recent STD test paperwork. When’s the last time you were tested, and do you have the results handy?”
Honestly, this shit doesn’t have to be complicated or a big deal. New things are always awkward, but the more you talk about sex and safer sex protocols, the easier it gets with practice.
The conversation I just had a few nights ago went like this:
Me: “Hey, I know we’re totally incompatible for a romantic relationship, but how would you feel about just hooking up once?”
Him: “Uh …”
Him: “Yeah, I’d be interested in that.”
Me: “OK, let’s make a date so we can talk about all the stuff, like testing and negotiating what kind of hookup we both want.”
Him: …
Him: “OK, when would you like to get together?”
Me: “How’s next Wednesday?’
Him: “Sure.”
[later, on Wednesday, we have The Talk]
Him: “Y’know, most people don’t sit in a public restaurant talking about STD tests and sex boundaries.”
Me: “That’s just weird. How else are we supposed to decide if we’re compatible?”
Him: “Most people just kinda go for it and see how it works.”
Me: “That’s very inefficient and messy.’
Him: “Well, that’s how most people do it.”
Me: “And how has that worked out for you so far?”
Him: …
Him: “I see your point.”
Q. How do you ask someone if they have an STD on the first date before getting it on?
A. Me: “I’m really attracted to you right now.”
Him: “I’m really into you too!”
Me: “Oh yeah? Well, if you give me your gmail address, I’ll link you in to my Google Doc of my sexual history and all my recent STD test paperwork. When’s the last time you were tested, and do you have the results handy?”
Honestly, this shit doesn’t have to be complicated or a big deal. New things are always awkward, but the more you talk about sex and safer sex protocols, the easier it gets with practice.
The conversation I just had a few nights ago went like this:
Me: “Hey, I know we’re totally incompatible for a romantic relationship, but how would you feel about just hooking up once?”
Him: “Uh …”
Him: “Yeah, I’d be interested in that.”
Me: “OK, let’s make a date so we can talk about all the stuff, like testing and negotiating what kind of hookup we both want.”
Him: …
Him: “OK, when would you like to get together?”
Me: “How’s next Wednesday?’
Him: “Sure.”
[later, on Wednesday, we have The Talk]
Him: “Y’know, most people don’t sit in a public restaurant talking about STD tests and sex boundaries.”
Me: “That’s just weird. How else are we supposed to decide if we’re compatible?”
Him: “Most people just kinda go for it and see how it works.”
Me: “That’s very inefficient and messy.’
Him: “Well, that’s how most people do it.”
Me: “And how has that worked out for you so far?”
Him: …
Him: “I see your point.”
