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https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/bj5ex8/how-to-help-gender-equality-international-womens-day
I usually like to pick out a paragraph (or 4 or 5) to highlight as the main reason(s) I'm sharing a particular article.
For this one, I spent all 100 lines going "oh, and this one!"
So just read the whole thing. And then do these things to "make women's lives more bearable" but to also just make life more fair.
It seems to be implied that it's aimed at cis men. But there are some things in here that apply to everyone, particularly with respect to internalized misogyny like calling mean women "bitches", being aware of intersectionality, etc.
And finally, if you are a cis man, don't tell the women posting things like this the ways in which you are #NotAllMen, even if you aren't tying to dismiss the woman's post but just want to point out how you agree with her because you do whatever things she's asking men to start doing. We don't need to know.
Your men friends *do* need to know that you do those things, but they also need to know in what ways you're trying to do more. But we don't need to hear about it, just do them. We'll notice. Telling us is a prompt for emotional labor, where we feel compelled to give you cookies for doing basically the things we're saying are the bare minimum just to make us even.
You may not be asking for those cookies, but that's part of the experience of being socialized as a woman where we are trained to feel obligated to reward you when you bring your work to our attention. So don't feed into that socialization. Don't tell us the ways you don't suck, just don't suck.
I usually like to pick out a paragraph (or 4 or 5) to highlight as the main reason(s) I'm sharing a particular article.
For this one, I spent all 100 lines going "oh, and this one!"
So just read the whole thing. And then do these things to "make women's lives more bearable" but to also just make life more fair.
It seems to be implied that it's aimed at cis men. But there are some things in here that apply to everyone, particularly with respect to internalized misogyny like calling mean women "bitches", being aware of intersectionality, etc.
And finally, if you are a cis man, don't tell the women posting things like this the ways in which you are #NotAllMen, even if you aren't tying to dismiss the woman's post but just want to point out how you agree with her because you do whatever things she's asking men to start doing. We don't need to know.
Your men friends *do* need to know that you do those things, but they also need to know in what ways you're trying to do more. But we don't need to hear about it, just do them. We'll notice. Telling us is a prompt for emotional labor, where we feel compelled to give you cookies for doing basically the things we're saying are the bare minimum just to make us even.
You may not be asking for those cookies, but that's part of the experience of being socialized as a woman where we are trained to feel obligated to reward you when you bring your work to our attention. So don't feed into that socialization. Don't tell us the ways you don't suck, just don't suck.
