People get taught to act like that. They get told that these communities, and indeed the whole world, is a big ol' candy store where if you've got some kind of currency (cash, hot body, political power, "personal power") you can just grab what you want. Also, that persistence is a trait of winners and that therefore in order to win, you should not take no for an answer. If people tell you know, you're just not effective enough. Go back and try again.
Pick up artists cast themselves as experts and advise horny people to seek out special interest communities to scam hotties. And to seek out people in the grocery store, the gym, the library, the museum or wherever people congregate in public that isn't necessarily for the purpose of meeting others, but hey, that's where the fish are.
Self-improvement books tell confused, neurotic people that everyone out there wants to know what's in it for them--and that the lesson to be learned from this is that you should be prepared to aggressively manipulate others by projecting what you think they want.
It's a gorram epidemic, and that's one cause.
Always seemed to me, for every true predator out there, there are ten or more unimaginative people who are fucking up because they were assured that this was how it's done. Like the ratio of active sadists among war criminals to obedient people who "were following orders".
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Date: 7/31/13 04:03 am (UTC)From:People get taught to act like that. They get told that these communities, and indeed the whole world, is a big ol' candy store where if you've got some kind of currency (cash, hot body, political power, "personal power") you can just grab what you want. Also, that persistence is a trait of winners and that therefore in order to win, you should not take no for an answer. If people tell you know, you're just not effective enough. Go back and try again.
Pick up artists cast themselves as experts and advise horny people to seek out special interest communities to scam hotties. And to seek out people in the grocery store, the gym, the library, the museum or wherever people congregate in public that isn't necessarily for the purpose of meeting others, but hey, that's where the fish are.
Self-improvement books tell confused, neurotic people that everyone out there wants to know what's in it for them--and that the lesson to be learned from this is that you should be prepared to aggressively manipulate others by projecting what you think they want.
It's a gorram epidemic, and that's one cause.
Always seemed to me, for every true predator out there, there are ten or more unimaginative people who are fucking up because they were assured that this was how it's done. Like the ratio of active sadists among war criminals to obedient people who "were following orders".