Out of interest, is the majority of this happening online? Or are you also seeing it at in-person social gatherings in equal amounts?
I ask because I've found that people's... difficulty in recognising others individuality and agency seems to be considerably more challenged by interacting online. My impression is that at least some of the "I'm using a computer, it takes orders" aspect of physically managing an interaction online transfers into the interaction with the "pixels at the other end". Compared with in-person interactions which carry a stronger visual reminder that there is another person involved. (Although it's far from a complete fix -- as illustrated by your examples of the way some people treat shop attendants, etc.) Lots of online communities, in the past, had a "read first, post later" rule (often with a suggestion of reading for weeks!), which seems to have been lost in modern online culture.
I think tacit really is onto something with treating people as people being a "black belt" skill: not super-super advanced, but minimum necessary set of skills to relate to others in a genuine way. That need to be learnt.
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Entitlement
Date: 7/31/13 01:25 am (UTC)From:I ask because I've found that people's... difficulty in recognising others individuality and agency seems to be considerably more challenged by interacting online. My impression is that at least some of the "I'm using a computer, it takes orders" aspect of physically managing an interaction online transfers into the interaction with the "pixels at the other end". Compared with in-person interactions which carry a stronger visual reminder that there is another person involved. (Although it's far from a complete fix -- as illustrated by your examples of the way some people treat shop attendants, etc.) Lots of online communities, in the past, had a "read first, post later" rule (often with a suggestion of reading for weeks!), which seems to have been lost in modern online culture.
I think
Ewen