Hence the suggestion that they'd probably be found in the book Emotional Blackmail.
However, I have found these to be distressingly common. I know of all too many relationships where one partner picks a fight in the morning before work, or follows that bullshit rule "don't go to bed mad" to mean "we can't go to sleep until this disagreement is hammered out", or says "if you walk out that door right now, we're through!", or is willing to fight at a party instead of saying "I'm upset right now, but this is not an appropriate time or place to discuss it".
I also have observed that almost none of the people who do these things would see themselves as being emotionally abusive and every single one of them could give some kind of justification for why it happened "this one time" or "in this case".
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Date: 6/19/13 05:43 pm (UTC)From:However, I have found these to be distressingly common. I know of all too many relationships where one partner picks a fight in the morning before work, or follows that bullshit rule "don't go to bed mad" to mean "we can't go to sleep until this disagreement is hammered out", or says "if you walk out that door right now, we're through!", or is willing to fight at a party instead of saying "I'm upset right now, but this is not an appropriate time or place to discuss it".
I also have observed that almost none of the people who do these things would see themselves as being emotionally abusive and every single one of them could give some kind of justification for why it happened "this one time" or "in this case".
We never think of ourselves as the bad guy.