If you think about how singles tend to do dating (not speaking from experience here, but from what I have seen/heard), good daters tend to listen to their dates and find out the date's interests and attitudes. Those less successful often seem to focus on 'selling themselves' without listening so well to their date. Of course, there is the risk of the 'good dater' approach in that the good dater might be tempted to 'look good' to the date by submerging parts of him/herself or pushing in uncomfortable directions in order to better suit (in their minds) what they perceive the date would like to see. Out come the masks! Can you imagine the disaster if a couple tries to do that for someone they are wooing?
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Date: 8/20/12 01:32 pm (UTC)From:Of course, there is the risk of the 'good dater' approach in that the good dater might be tempted to 'look good' to the date by submerging parts of him/herself or pushing in uncomfortable directions in order to better suit (in their minds) what they perceive the date would like to see. Out come the masks! Can you imagine the disaster if a couple tries to do that for someone they are wooing?