Well, to be technical, saying yes does not mean admitting you want it. It means admitting you're willing. A married woman can fully verbally consent to being willing and could even, if she chose, say things like: Yes, it's my duty. Or, yes, we ought to try for a baby.
So, that's part of why I don't think it'll help with slut-shaming particularly. I think slut-shaming is just too complex an issue. But I think YMY is a good issue in its own right.
I have trouble reconciling the notion of viewing a woman as equal but saying that they will never have sex if they have to wait for a woman to clearly consent, as they seem to be saying they do not view a woman as equally capable of voicing consent as a male, so in what way do they view a woman as equal? As to opening the door while in lingerie, while not a terrible indicator, I find it rather disturbing given that just today I opened a door to some strangers from AT&T while in a nightgown, since they knocked and that was what I was wearing. I absolutely was not consenting to have sex with them. There can be various situations that can come up. It's definitely not a perfect signal.
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Date: 8/30/11 01:26 am (UTC)From:So, that's part of why I don't think it'll help with slut-shaming particularly. I think slut-shaming is just too complex an issue. But I think YMY is a good issue in its own right.
I have trouble reconciling the notion of viewing a woman as equal but saying that they will never have sex if they have to wait for a woman to clearly consent, as they seem to be saying they do not view a woman as equally capable of voicing consent as a male, so in what way do they view a woman as equal? As to opening the door while in lingerie, while not a terrible indicator, I find it rather disturbing given that just today I opened a door to some strangers from AT&T while in a nightgown, since they knocked and that was what I was wearing. I absolutely was not consenting to have sex with them. There can be various situations that can come up. It's definitely not a perfect signal.