I mostly agree and approve. Although I don't think it'll stop slut-shaming. I think we need general cultural change in how we view women and how we view sex to do that.
I think explicit consent should be obtained before first time sex or new sexual activities. I'm fine with implied consent for repeating activities within the context of an ongoing relationship, but with the ability to say no at any time, of course, and if the relationship ends then you have to renegotiate with explicit consent again. It would be tedious to do explicit consent for sex all the time within well-established relationships when staying within well-established boundaries.
Yes means yes isn't even revolutionary. It is pretty much a model that used to exist, since if premarital sex was less common, you had to consent to marriage before having sex with someone. Of course, non-marital sex still happened and within marriage you didn't have opt-out rights to individual sexual encounters, and that latter part I find rather horrific. So, we're working toward a better model.
I do think that many of the objections though stem from the fact that the model does encourage and possibly require more equality between males and females. That's obviously going to meet with resistance from some people. It works fine for me and many people I know. But people who prefer inequality between the sexes will have issues with a model that puts both partners on equal footing and expects both of them to take equal responsibility for their actions.
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Date: 8/29/11 11:35 pm (UTC)From:I think explicit consent should be obtained before first time sex or new sexual activities. I'm fine with implied consent for repeating activities within the context of an ongoing relationship, but with the ability to say no at any time, of course, and if the relationship ends then you have to renegotiate with explicit consent again. It would be tedious to do explicit consent for sex all the time within well-established relationships when staying within well-established boundaries.
Yes means yes isn't even revolutionary. It is pretty much a model that used to exist, since if premarital sex was less common, you had to consent to marriage before having sex with someone. Of course, non-marital sex still happened and within marriage you didn't have opt-out rights to individual sexual encounters, and that latter part I find rather horrific. So, we're working toward a better model.
I do think that many of the objections though stem from the fact that the model does encourage and possibly require more equality between males and females. That's obviously going to meet with resistance from some people. It works fine for me and many people I know. But people who prefer inequality between the sexes will have issues with a model that puts both partners on equal footing and expects both of them to take equal responsibility for their actions.