Thank you for recommending this movie! We loved it! I didn't read the spoilers beforehand, but I read them now and I felt the exact same thing -- the movie turned decisively poly at the "Will you be the second father of my child?" I also liked especially that both parents turned out to be quite smart, and not at all as conservative as we thought. They're real people, not just there for comedy.
One remark: the sex that Wai Tung and Wei Wei had. Imagine the same story, with the genders reversed. Imagine a lesbian girl trying to hide it from the parents, marrying a guy who carries a torch for her, etc. etc. And then in their wedding bed, he begins to make love with her, despite her clearly voiced objections, saying "I'm liberating you". What would we call this guy?
I'm not saying that Wei Wei is a rapist. All I'm saying is that it's interesting to see the double standard in our perception of such things. When a woman does it, it's called seduction. When a man does the same, it's called sexual assault. Just wanted to point it out.
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Date: 8/20/11 09:52 pm (UTC)From:I also liked especially that both parents turned out to be quite smart, and not at all as conservative as we thought. They're real people, not just there for comedy.
One remark: the sex that Wai Tung and Wei Wei had. Imagine the same story, with the genders reversed. Imagine a lesbian girl trying to hide it from the parents, marrying a guy who carries a torch for her, etc. etc. And then in their wedding bed, he begins to make love with her, despite her clearly voiced objections, saying "I'm liberating you". What would we call this guy?
I'm not saying that Wei Wei is a rapist. All I'm saying is that it's interesting to see the double standard in our perception of such things. When a woman does it, it's called seduction. When a man does the same, it's called sexual assault. Just wanted to point it out.