I like how you write and I think you have a lot of good things to say and worth sharing. I’d like to continue reading your journal. But to me this isn’t anything at all unique to polyamory and it sounds as if you are trying to convey the message that it is.
It is always important IMO to remember that the benefits within poly are benefits because that dynamic works for us. For a non poly person, these would not be benefits at all, they would be detractors. Just as we would not experience the benefits of monogamy as we are poly, they would not be benefits for us.
Also, I come more and more to belive that, with rare exception of hermits and shut ins, we’re all poly. We all sustain multiple relationships of varying dynamics simultaneously. I think the more we all understood that, the less monogamists would fear and the less polyamorists would fuck up their first attempts because they try to re-create the wheel and lose all perspective.
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Date: 2/10/11 05:22 pm (UTC)From:It is always important IMO to remember that the benefits within poly are benefits because that dynamic works for us. For a non poly person, these would not be benefits at all, they would be detractors. Just as we would not experience the benefits of monogamy as we are poly, they would not be benefits for us.
Also, I come more and more to belive that, with rare exception of hermits and shut ins, we’re all poly. We all sustain multiple relationships of varying dynamics simultaneously. I think the more we all understood that, the less monogamists would fear and the less polyamorists would fuck up their first attempts because they try to re-create the wheel and lose all perspective.