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Poly Book Club #4 Is Due
May. 3rd, 2008 02:08 amSometimes It IS About The Sex
Polyamorists have a phrase, "It's not all about the sex". What they mean is that it's not ALL about the sex. The point is not to downplay or ignore that our relationships are sexual, it's to focus on the multidimensionality of our relationships, to focus on the relating to each other that may or may not include sex. This is opposed to relationships that are purely about sex, that have no other quality, no other dimension, no other purpose.
But, what makes us different from monogamists is that we do have multiple sexual relationships. If it weren't for the sex, we'd just be a bunch of friends. Friends, even in the monogamous world, can have many different levels of intimacy, from social acquaintances to closest, lifetime confidantes. So can polyamorous relationships. The difference is the sex. So, at some point, we do have to address the question of how to handle multiple sexual relationships.
And that's what the book The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt tries to answer.
Come visit our online bookclub to read the rest of the review and discuss it with us!
Next book is Leaving Cheyenne by Larry McMurty due June 1st.
Polyamorists have a phrase, "It's not all about the sex". What they mean is that it's not ALL about the sex. The point is not to downplay or ignore that our relationships are sexual, it's to focus on the multidimensionality of our relationships, to focus on the relating to each other that may or may not include sex. This is opposed to relationships that are purely about sex, that have no other quality, no other dimension, no other purpose.
But, what makes us different from monogamists is that we do have multiple sexual relationships. If it weren't for the sex, we'd just be a bunch of friends. Friends, even in the monogamous world, can have many different levels of intimacy, from social acquaintances to closest, lifetime confidantes. So can polyamorous relationships. The difference is the sex. So, at some point, we do have to address the question of how to handle multiple sexual relationships.
And that's what the book The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt tries to answer.
Come visit our online bookclub to read the rest of the review and discuss it with us!
Next book is Leaving Cheyenne by Larry McMurty due June 1st.
