I followed the whole thing on twitter yesterday and honestly, I think you were right on. He insulted polyamory (and poly people), you called him on it, he acted like a dick, and you flamed him for it. It escalated not because of anything you did, but apparently because he didn't like being called out as an idiot in a public forum. Which makes one think that perhaps he shouldn't act like an idiot in public, but apparently he doesn't understand that.
I would have joined in, but work was crazy and so I didn't have the bandwidth. I'm glad you did.
I know it doesn't feel good, but it worked - he will think twice before publicly dissing on polyamory again, even if he still resents us privately. In this sort of activism, it is important to use both the carrot and the hammer, and (unfortunately, due to the way our world works) the hammer is a hell of a lot more effective.
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Date: 10/29/09 04:59 pm (UTC)From:I would have joined in, but work was crazy and so I didn't have the bandwidth. I'm glad you did.
I know it doesn't feel good, but it worked - he will think twice before publicly dissing on polyamory again, even if he still resents us privately. In this sort of activism, it is important to use both the carrot and the hammer, and (unfortunately, due to the way our world works) the hammer is a hell of a lot more effective.