I agree completely. Oh granted I am new to poly (was in a mmf about a decade ago for a while but after that imploded - long story - I went back to unadmiting unhappy mono) and so have never had the option to watch a sweetie with someone else. Nor have I ever been to play parties or orgies - however, I very much enjoy porn. It gets my engine kicked over very well, and much like you - sound only matters when it's personal.
I am not sure I could say that I have ever experienced a lull like you do, though if I am involved with someone and the emotional connection is weak or missing then so to is my sex drive. I have been in a dry spell for 2.5 years now because I won't settle for a FwB, and I miss sex, the red haze of daily lust, a man growling in my ear... very much.
So yeah, I get where you are coming from. I too am a voyeur and a woman and I love it. :)
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Date: 6/21/09 05:17 am (UTC)From:I am not sure I could say that I have ever experienced a lull like you do, though if I am involved with someone and the emotional connection is weak or missing then so to is my sex drive. I have been in a dry spell for 2.5 years now because I won't settle for a FwB, and I miss sex, the red haze of daily lust, a man growling in my ear... very much.
So yeah, I get where you are coming from. I too am a voyeur and a woman and I love it. :)