It's not so much that I've repeatedly asked someone to stop, it's that I am seemingly inconsistent about saying "yes" or "no" because sometimes it's pleasurable and sometimes it's not, so this is my attempt to clarify when it's pleasurable and when it's not.
And no, not every single guy is this way, that's why I said "almost universal", but out of 40+ partners, I have yet to be with a guy who knows that he shouldn't grab for the nipples as the *first* step.
If I were to just say "don't ever touch my nipples", then pretty much every guy I know would stop. But when I tell someone that touching the nipples can bring me almost to orgasm without any other stimuli and touching the nipples can bring me over to orgasm when I'm on the edge, then they (rightly) assume I like nipple stimulation.
What they don't understand is that I do not like nipple stimulation right out of the starting gate. Lots of guys don't seem to understand that I need to be turned on first, and when I start making out with someone, I'm not necessarily turned on yet, even if I'm ready and willing to make out with someone.
And a lot of guys treat tweaking the nipples like a swat on the bottom - as in, a casual, playful gesture that isn't even intended to start a make-out or sexual encounter, but something to do when their girlfriends happen to walk by and are within arms' reach. I know some girls who like that. I happen to not be one of them. I think this may be because many guys' nipples are not as sensitive as many women's nipples and/or their sensitivity might instantly translate to arousal and they might like that sensation, whereas mine does not.
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Re: nipples
Date: 5/30/09 06:20 pm (UTC)From:And no, not every single guy is this way, that's why I said "almost universal", but out of 40+ partners, I have yet to be with a guy who knows that he shouldn't grab for the nipples as the *first* step.
If I were to just say "don't ever touch my nipples", then pretty much every guy I know would stop. But when I tell someone that touching the nipples can bring me almost to orgasm without any other stimuli and touching the nipples can bring me over to orgasm when I'm on the edge, then they (rightly) assume I like nipple stimulation.
What they don't understand is that I do not like nipple stimulation right out of the starting gate. Lots of guys don't seem to understand that I need to be turned on first, and when I start making out with someone, I'm not necessarily turned on yet, even if I'm ready and willing to make out with someone.
And a lot of guys treat tweaking the nipples like a swat on the bottom - as in, a casual, playful gesture that isn't even intended to start a make-out or sexual encounter, but something to do when their girlfriends happen to walk by and are within arms' reach. I know some girls who like that. I happen to not be one of them. I think this may be because many guys' nipples are not as sensitive as many women's nipples and/or their sensitivity might instantly translate to arousal and they might like that sensation, whereas mine does not.