joreth | (Reply)

Having not read the book, I can only say that this seems consistent with her attitude on the show. She starts with the premise that developing multiple emotional connections is bad, and because it's inevitable that the participants develop emotional connections, since that's an undesireable conclusion, therefore open marriages can't work. As I said "you're doing it wrong!" Of COURSE emotional connections are going to happen. Not necessarily with everyone - some relationships are just casual in nature, but interacting with other people on such an intimate scale is bound to trigger some emotional feelings. Sex is pretty much DESIGNED to create bonding between the participants, it's an evolutionary mechanism. Where she fails is assuming that's a bad thing. Unfortunately, her publicity allows her to "confirm" what all those other anti-poly people fear - that loving a second person "threatens" the original relationship. And her presence on this show (and her book, apparently) spreads this false paradigm and the format of a typical talk show only encourages her condemnation and discourages the challenge that people like Jenny Block offer, which is to rethink why this paradigm should be.