Yeah, when my husband told his psychiatrist that he's poly, or more specifically, that I have another relationship and he doesn't, her response was, "That can't be a good thing!" Sigh.
And his therapist isn't crazy about the idea either, though she's more diplomatic about it. Fortunately, she's also an excellent therapist, from what I can gather, so she doesn't seem to be pushing him into thinking that it MUST be a problem. It probably also helps that he's been in therapy with her since before we became poly, so she can see that he already had plenty of problems before (though not marriage problems), and becoming poly hasn't caused any new problems. Which, of course, is largely due to the fact that our relationship was in great shape before we became poly.
I imagine it's pretty difficult in general for poly people to find a good therapist, whether they need therapy for relationship stuff or for unrelated stuff such as, in my husband's case, clinical depression.
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Date: 9/26/08 01:19 am (UTC)From:And his therapist isn't crazy about the idea either, though she's more diplomatic about it. Fortunately, she's also an excellent therapist, from what I can gather, so she doesn't seem to be pushing him into thinking that it MUST be a problem. It probably also helps that he's been in therapy with her since before we became poly, so she can see that he already had plenty of problems before (though not marriage problems), and becoming poly hasn't caused any new problems. Which, of course, is largely due to the fact that our relationship was in great shape before we became poly.
I imagine it's pretty difficult in general for poly people to find a good therapist, whether they need therapy for relationship stuff or for unrelated stuff such as, in my husband's case, clinical depression.