huh?

[joreth]

Um, I just logged onto OKC to check my inbox and between reading one email and replying to it, I got a message saying that someone just saved me to his Favorites list.

We only matched 35%. So I decided to check him out. Here's what his profile says: 

My self-summary

rich, attractive, fit, fun young male looking to spoil a beautiful young sexy lady. I am not looking for a serious relationship, only to flirt and have fun and be a sugardaddy for a special young hot woman.

What I'm doing with my life

having fun

I'm really good at

going on dates and spoiling beautiful women who take care of me

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me

my eyes, body, and but.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

all stepehn king books, hip-hop, and sushi

The six things I could never do without

women, gym, running shoes, TV, car, and frineds/family.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

where to spend vacation times

On a typical Friday night I am

going out

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here

none

You should message me if

you are outgoing and love to have fun

Yeah, this looks real.

Secondly, what on earth made him decide to add me to his Favorites?  I don't get people sometimes

Comments

[serolynne.livejournal.com]

Sign me up.. I could use a sugardaddy :D

[joreth]

Hell, so could I, but I strongly suspect I wouldn't qualify as a suitable partner - what with the whole open and ethical non-monogamy, safe sex, and liking "serious relationship" thing I've got going lately ;-)

The anti-spoiling thing tends to work against me too. I really should learn to get over that!

[serolynne.livejournal.com]

I don't think that a sugardaddy arrangement has to necessarily exclude ethical non-monogamy or safer sexual practices. I have actually chatted with a few guys wanting that sort of arrangement, and the terms were all really quite negotiatble in that respect.

However, this particular guy does state the part about a non-serious relationship... however I suspect he's really meaning 'not looking for a wife' or 'full time girlfriend'. I tend to find that 'serious relationship' in the monogamous world is not always the same as 'serious relationship' in poly context. But who knows.. he does focus a lot on the 'fun' aspects, so likely not much cross-over potential on the serious terminology.

[joreth]

Personally, I think poly is one type of relationship structure that could really benefit these types of people because sometimes what they're looking for is non-marriage but will still accept some kind of emotional connection (at the very least, a friendship), but my personal experience with them has not been pleasant. The guys I've had contact with want some trophy girlfriend who looks hot to show off, have lots of sex with, keep her mouth shut and not have any strong opinions on anything and in return, he'll buy her shiny stuff. This is the implication I get from this guy, whether he intends it or not.

But, you do have a good point, "serious" in mono is not the same as "serious" in poly since the mono version usually includes exclusivity and sexual fidelity.

But having someone to pay my rent and buy me shiny stuff (as long as it's not diamonds!) wouldn't be a bad thing!

[james-the-evil1.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I could use that.
I own a wig & heels, I wonder if I could pull off being "hot" enough?

[catherinew.livejournal.com]

He has a rigorous set of selection criteria.

1) Are you a girl?
2) Are you alive?

There you go.

[joreth]

well, he does require #3) are you hot? and #4) doesn't want serious relationship.

the latter certainly takes me out of the running, the former is debatable.

[omnifarious.livejournal.com]

the former is debatable.

I disagree. Though, of course, that means I'm debating it, so I guess I'm just shooting myself in the foot there. But I still disagree. :-)