Also, I think I lost the thread of my own argument! The point I was trying to make was that working within a framework is not the same as 'obeying' the sub. The dominant is still in charge, and the sub must still do the obeying... if they want to stay in the game.

(if it's an actual D/s scene and not just plain old egalitarian SM using inappropriately power-laden terms, as done by far too many people)

But tbh it sounds like DSD really just wants a telepathic service top. I wouldn't go there either!