I really, really appreciate these thoughtful and articulate approaches from the single side of poly. My experience was 31 years ago, and easy because they had experience sharing and they were very considerate and forgiving of the brand new person. I got to pass that along to my next partner. And I haven't stopped learning, although there was a long pause of relative calm during which the safety net of being a couple X 2 made me complacent. Not that we weren't without our upheavals. Unrequited love, loving an asshat, and love killed by betrayal/veto happen to married people, too. Sigh.

This very topic came up during the PolyTampa meeting last night. I'll link this on Twitter and @ Marc to post it to the list after any new people get signed up.