May. 27th, 2009

joreth: (Nude Drawing)
I'm going to take some time here to discuss some very personal details about my sex life. I'm going to do this for 3 reasons:

1) I am apparently paradoxical about some things so I want to clarify them. I've had many conversations over the years that have, apparently, confused lots of guys, regarding whether or not I like sex. So I'm taking this opportunity to try and explain some seemingly-paradoxical claims I make, and possibly refer to this in the future.

2) My personal tastes and preferences are not like other women's. We are all very individual people, and I'm royally sick of books and movies like "What Women Want" and stupid OKC forum users making broad generalizations about "all women are [fill in the blank]". Men and women are individuals. We have individual wants, needs, desires, dislikes, preferences, tastes, goals, and lifestyles and the sooner we, as a society, understand that, the easier it will be for us to find, keep, and appreciate partners.

3) At the same time, we all have *some things* in common with other people. I have spent an enormous amount of my life being embarrassed about certain aspects of my personality or my likes, because I felt (or was told) that I was "weird" or "different". So I think it would be helpful for me to spotlight some of those parts of myself so that other women who share them can know that they're not alone, whether they speak up here or not. Knowing that one is not alone is a very powerful tool for building one's self-esteem and self-confidence. And being confident in oneself leads to a much more fulfilling and satisfactory sex life.

So today, I want to talk about why I love sex and why I make statements that indicate that I do not like sex.

What follows behind the cut is an extremely long and extremely detailed look at my sexuality, otherwise known as TMI and NSFW - although there are no pictures )


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